WET DREAMS AND MARRIAGE?

WET DREAMS AND MARRIAGE?
Dear Doctor,
Is it normal for a man who has not known any woman to be having wet-
dreams? That is, after having dreamt of seeing a woman (either naked or
not) and in the process, through an instinct; his body releases watery
substance (sperm). How normal or abnormal is it? When he now want to
relate with his wife can this affect the release of sperm having
experience wet-dreams before? How true is it that one should meet his
wife 15 days after her period? What happens if one does so before or
after the completion of 15 days? What method does a man who did not
have initial experience with any woman apply when meeting his wife for
the first time? Or how does he go about it having no experience with a
woman before?
Babalo Mauhe, Kogi

Dear Babalo,
Wet dreams are very common among adolescent(teenage) and young adult
males but can happen to any male at any age. They are of two major
types--the normal and the abnormal. The first is normal wet dreaming.
Again, this normal type has two categories. The first category of
normal happens once in a while and is because the system keeps
producing millions of sperm cells which are not used up in a male that
is not sexually active. Just like a woman menstruates every month when
she is not gotten pregnant so also does a man who is not sexually
active release an accumulation of sperm cells via wet dreams once in a
while. This is a normal thing. The second category of normal is when a
man stimulates himself --through over concentration in his mind or with
his eyes or thoughts on the opposite sex. This will cause a normal
excitement of his system which will result in wet dreams more often
than the first category. We can see and understand that this type is
psychological.
There are two types of abnormal wet dreaming. The first is physical
only. It happens because the man has a disease called Chronic
Prostatitis.This wet dreaming is frequent and many times, vivid--the
man sees himself actually having sex in the dream and releasing semen
as a result. Or he may not really have the sex but just be in
preparation to. Chronic Prostatitis has other clinical features --
discharge from the prostate without any sexual stimulation; back ache
and or other varieties and types of pain in the pelvis--things moving
in the organ; painful penis scrotum, testes; groin; pudendum(underneath
the genitals), anus etc etc; sexual inadequacy of all types --
especially premature ejaculation that was not present before; frequency
of urination and so on. Again, there may be no symptoms or signs at
all. It is diagnosed by carefully seeking germs and an appropriate
immune reaction in either the urine and/or the semen or the prostatic fluid
-- sometimes after the patient has voided urine. Many germs can cause
prostatitis -- some of them are E. Coli; Staphylococccus; Candida;
trichomoniasis, viruses--among the non-sexually transmitted ones and
gonorrhea and chlamydia among the sexually transmitted.
The second type of abnormal wet dreaming, I am afraid, is spiritual
more than physical. Here, a man has a sexual encounter with a lady and
three or four things begin to happen from the time he had the
encounter. a) Sexual Inadequacy of various types descend on him--
premature ejaculation, only one round, weak erection and so on. b)He
begins to have wet dreams c)In these wet dreams the particular girl or
lady he had the index sexual encounter with becomes very prominent--as
in he either begins to see her or her cohorts in the dreams more
frequently or the location or elements of his encounter with her
continue to plague him either in the dreams or in the mind and d) He
often also has a Chronic prostatitis --which may or may not have any
symptoms. This category of men usually receive treatment for Chronic
Prostatitis over and over again but either never get well or never get
well fully or get well now but fall ill later(usually after another
bout of this their wet dreaming--but he may not know, poor man!!). They
may also notice they have dwindling financial fortunes and difficulty
making babies and or progress in other ways.
The remedy is to see a doctor/urologist who also understands the link
between the physical, the mental and the spirirtual and like you can
discern from this answer we have helped many folks tackle this very
delicate problem before and can confidently say we get total cures for
those who strictly follow the treatment regimens which we give them.Chronic Prostatitis, you
see, is a very notoriously difficult ailment to treat by any practitioner--doctor, urologist or
alternative anywhere in the world.
Now can a man with no sexual experience get these problems? Yes. The
last type can come on a man even if he had nothing to do with the said
girl--all she needs is to pick a strong interest in him --she can--and often does -- meet
him in the dreams, remember?
As for the psychological type -- of course a man can also have it
without sex. The physical and normal type of wet dreaming, we have said
occurs mainly in the unmarried or the married who have, in recent times, not
been sexually active.
Inexperience with sex before marriage is not a bad thing if the man is
willing to learn--either from his wife or from books or from experts.Of
course the wife, too, may not know too much so we are definitely not advocating
that you wait take lectures from your wife.
It is very bad if a man will behave like someone I met recently who was
suffering from premature ejaculation dating back to since he began
having sex--a well to do, educated man who asked me -- what is
premature ejaculation? It transpired that he did not know; was guilty
of it and all he did during sex with wife or girl-friends was just
satisfy himself. He did not know he had to help his partner to reach
orgasm during sex!!! We have written a manual that will help you if you
are in this category. Just send us an e mail to find out how to get
it.
In summary, get books to educate yourself so you can be ready for your
matrimonial privileges/duties. You'll also learn there is no magic about 15 days
after menses to have sex for babies --if you'll reach out and read up on these things, that
is. You don't need to turn promiscuous--that carries the risk of STD's and HIV/AIDS.
Cheers
Dr Caleb Bibbi Oluranti