How Can I Satisfy Her?

 

How To Satisfy Her

Dear Doctor,

I am 43 and a regular reader of your column. I have the embarrassing problem of Premature Ejaculation. Embarrassing because my 36 year old outspoken wife and partner complains of my inability to satisfy her; so she's now unwilling to have fun with me anymore. I fear I may lose her but I love her so much. Please help me. Thinking about sex now is a nightmare to me.

John Jasper James Alapere, Ketu, Lagos

 

Dear Jasper,

We've had a barrage of letters like yours asking the same question and we promised to deal with it ;so here goes: A large number of men have this complaint of Premature Ejaculation or PRJ which is defined as when a man finishes sex (has orgasm or ejaculates) before the wife finishes or is satisfied or has orgasm. While the secondary (or recent origin) type is caused by an infection--usually of the Prostate--and must be properly treated by a competent doctor to be cured, the primary type (of long term--began since the man started having sex) of PRJ is usually psychological and due to inexperience or over-excitement at the pleasurable sight of a woman. Tackle it this way

1) Get your wife's co-operation by sitting her down and admitting to her that you have a problem which she holds the key to helping you solve. You need a wife--a committed and understanding only partner not a termagant of a girl-friend. This, apart from protecting you from AIDS and STD's helps to guarantee success. She realizes that there is no alternative to you. You are in it together. And you should spend and have time to work together on the project of making you the type of man that will easily satisfy her so she and you both can be as happy as you deserve to be. Commitment is the key. 2)Tell her clearly the problem-- let her see that you do not willingly stop the fun before she gets her own satisfaction--No. It is something you cannot control; something too big for you to handle something you have had no control over. But now with her cooperation, both of you can learn to gain control over it. She must stop seeing the problem as just your problem and start seeing it as her problem too--its robbing not only you but herself of her fun also!! 3)When a man fails to perform on the bed, it affects his self-confidence and subsequent attempts at sex carry that psychological overlay or disadvantage -- so she should not add petrol to the fire of your dying psyche by unending nagging, complaints, snide remarks and deprecatory behaviour either before, during or after sex; for this will give you low self-esteem and will guarantee that you never perform as you should anymore. Rather, she should turn around and help you (and herself) -- nagging hinders performance -- by heightening the man's anxiety. 4)Now listen to this very important key -- women are naturally slow ; much slower than men in getting to the heights of sexual arousal, satisfaction or orgasm. So start to work on your woman a long time before sex. Compliments (nice remarks, praise, appreciation) works wonders on women. No criticism, no trouble before going to bed -- this puts her in the right mood to sexually ignite faster. 5 ) In bed, forget yourself and concentrate on her.Men almost always do not need any foreplay. But women need it like hell. So spend very good time arousing your woman as you hold her close, kiss her, whisper sweet nothings --"I love you"-- touch her and gently stroke her body -- as she directs you. It's like bringing her up to the sexual height where you have already climbed...

 

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Dr. Caleb Bibbi Oluranti, 08033466574; 08028240983; 08093142261; 08156697540

First-Time Sex for Girls

First Sex For Gals

Hello Doctor.

 I would like to know what experiences\ things to notice\feel when a woman has sex for the first time because I am not sure myself of the answers I get from people. It has not happened to me so you to tell me in details the common things\experiences.  Please I need the answer fast to verify some things even if you want to send an attachment. Please put your own opinion down. Doctor, I am relying on you and please do not publish my name and email address. May God continue to give you knowledge, bless you and your family.

Genevieve Johnson, Apapa, Lagos

Dear Genevieve,

At the time a lady is disvirgined she will notice the following - 

Pain-- b/c of the breaking of the hymen; 2.Some bleeding; .3.Little pleasure -- some times no pleasure at all; 4.Disappointment as to expectations of pleasure which expectations are not fully met but will be met much later after the pain of the period of loss of virginity. 5. Closeness to the man --even if painful.6. Fulfillment and joy and contentment if you loved him.7. Feeling of regret if you did not love him. You can call the help-lines for anyhelp you need in this regard

Cheers

Dr. Caleb Bibbi Oluranti, 08033466574;08028240983;08156697540;08093142261 

I'm Losing My Erection & Can't Make Love

Losing My Erection;Can’t Make Love

Dear Doctor,
I have a problem that is multi-pronged. It all started last year when I was hospitalized due to bronchial pneumonia. I recovered to find out I no longer had a job. This took its toll on me among other disappointments. To my problem proper; I tried making love to my fiance a month after my illness, but discovered to my chagrin that anytime I attempted wearing a condom, I lost my erection. All subsequent moves to get it back, results in involuntary emission. Initially, I thought it was a result of the illness so I waited for another month before trying again and the same thing happened. I tried again the third time and it became worse; terrible. By this time my fiance had already lost patience with me and broke up. Again, that first month, my fiance showed me a lab result that she had scanty growth of staphylococcus and candidiasis. At first I was worried, but I remembered that I just came out of the hospital where a lot test was carried before my subsequent treatment. Since the doctor didn't mention anything like that, I just shrugged it off. Could this be related to the problem at hand? Though I thought it was more of psychological than physical since I was kind of depressed. I have already encountered worse emotional problem before and my performance was not in any way affected, so I was really disappointed that it is happening to me now, especially when I’ve promised never to make love without a condom until I get married. I tried sorting things out with my fiancé but she seems to be so sure that the episode will repeat itself and since the last day she no longer loves me. I am really worried about this development, please advise me as it is affecting me emotionally, and has ruined my love life, even worse than my unemployed predicament. I would be very much obliged if you could send your prognosis of the situation to my e-mail address as I will be traveling to a location where getting a newspaper to read is not easy, so that I can read it immediately I come back. Thanks,
Yours Faithfully,
Humuani Wa’Salaam, Maiduguri

 Dear HS,

If you simply send an e mail to betterloverz@yahoo.com you will get a full understanding of how to sort yourself out. You have Chronic Prostatitis (CPR); that's all. This condition does all what you have reported and more-- lowers sperm count and causes male infertility. So it negatively affects both virility (ability to be a stud--be powerful on the bed and really do your woman to satisfaction) and fertility (ability to impregnate a woman and father kids). The germs you mentioned above-- Staphylococcus aureus and Candida albicans happen to be major culprits in causing the disease along with Escherichia coli. Others include Klebsiella, Proteus mirabilis and other Gram Negative bacterial organisms. Your condition will not go away unless you treat it and treatment is not straightforward as many physicians fail to cure it --quite a number feel it’s just a question of psychology and others think you do not get any sexual effects when you have CPR--or in other words, CPR causes no sexual complaints but the truth is that the disease cripples a man sexually- fewer rounds than before, loss of sexual hunger or libido, weakened morning erection, soft erection, premature ejaculation, lowered sperm count, frequent night encounters with sex called wet dreams, etc. The psychological angle has some truth to it but not in the way surmised (frequent failure with women eventually makes a man avoid women and sex) and in some cases, you need spiritual help to tackle the sex in dreams complication. Treatment is not simple -you need prolonged treatment with appropriate and high dose antibiotics and a few other bits of deep understanding of both the mind and the spirit to tackle the disease successfully which we do very well. If you follow our prescriptions and advise you will get rid of it. Just call the helplines

I Have Banned Sex With My Husband

I Have Banned Sex With My Husband

Dear Dr,
Because we are growing older and for the sake of greater convenience, my husband and I keep a plastic container under the bed as a urinal which gets emptied by us in the morning. I have noticed that there are flaky whitish sediments in the urine when I dispose of it in the morning and I became apprehensive. I insisted on laboratory examination which showed nothing wrong. By getting two different containers, I have been able to discover that the sediments come from my husband’s urine. Again, laboratory evidence is zero. I am worried, because on google, infection is mentioned. For this reason I have stopped allowing my husband to have unprotected sex with me; I don’t want any infection. I have been demanding condoms which he refuses because to him they are ridiculous. This has led to a stalemate. Please advise me what to do. Thank you
Shirley Madumere, Enugu

My dear Shirley,
The word infection can be the cause of a lot of unnecessary scares if not correctly understood.  But t to escape the fear snare, here is wisdom. It is Sexually Transmitted Infection you want to run away from. When infection is not qualified by the phrase “sexually transmitted” there is very little to worry about. You see, the vagina itself is not sterile but contains a lot of germs (although beneficial). The astute physician knows what to treat and what to ignore, even when laboratory results show what looks like infection. This is because isolating certain germs in medical tests of urine and semen and even high vaginal swabs does not necessarily mean there is infection. Germs may be present in a beneficial relationship with the host; that is they may be living as commensals and not pathogens in the host’s system. Sediments can be present without infection of any kind. And even if true infection is present, it may be a general germ or a germ that causes only urinary tract infection which is not the same thing as a sexually transmitted infection. See a good doctor who will take time to interview, examine and lab-investigate both of you and get to the root of this. But don’t shut down the marital bed because of so-called infection that cannot be found in medical laboratory tests but exists only in the realms of speculation. Such behavior is what causes even morally upright men to stumble. Stop the sex ban. Please be wise. You can call the help-lines.
Dr. Caleb Bibbi Oluranti
08028240983; 08033466574; 08093142261; 08056697540

Masturbating Seven Times A Day; Needing To Marry!!!

Masturbating Seven Times A Day and Needing To Marry!!!

Dear Doctor,

I love your column-and need this urgent advice; due to my inability to mingle with the opposite sex-[i got a history of 17 turn-offs-spurned because of man-got-no-pay-syndrome  and the so-called sanctimonious attitude of our so-called born again girls-which leaves much to be desired! now-I masturbate for like 7 times a day; I'm 30.never dated again in 9 months-and 4 years running I've been so depressed and emotionally devastated to trust any woman-will masturbation harm me? You are the doctor -please publish this and send me a response- because, I won't be in town during this weekend-let others read my example-those who suffer likewise- maybe you can tell me when we will see when I get back-but write!

Thanks!

Georges Humbunu, Badagry

Dear Georges,

The truth is -- at 30 you could be married and fulfilling both yourself and someone who is very likely very lonely at this time. But what do we have? Masturbation -- from you and maybe herself too --out of frustration. But is masturbation bad? Well-- for one it is compulsive -- almost addictive; so that atimes married masturbators prefer it to real intercourse! That's the problem and because nobody can masturbate without phantasising, unsuspected invasion by spirits of incubi and succubi is too common but hidden. But we can go beyond these real challenges-- how to get a lady to listen to you; how to settle down in marriage; how to stop masturbating. Why should anyone masturbate when the real thing is available? We can and want to take you to the place of fulfillment. All you need is proper counseling and mentoring and you'll get there. Begin by befriending a few male friends who seem to know what to do around the ladies and watch them. This will help you focus on the area of your confidence. Be ready to follow guidelines and instructions. Call the help-lines. Imagine how much STD we can prevent by the proper counseling in matters like these!

Cheers

Dr. Caleb Bibbi Oluranti; 08033466574; 08028240983; 08093142261; 08156697540

Chronic Illness After Sex Encounter

After Sex Encounter, Confused; What to do?

Dear Dr,

I have been ill for roughly 2 years now and all efforts to get lasting treatment have proved abortive. Symptoms are recurrent waist pain, internal body heat sometimes at the sole of the feet, stomach rumbling [sometimes noisy], recurrent sore throat, catarrh and cough with chest congestion and sometimes pain in scrotum after a prolonged erection. All this is always accompanied with persistent fever and sometimes dizziness. Once or twice noticed sperm [like] fluid come out of the penis. I have treated malaria and typhoid more than 10 times ever since after tests confirmed their presence. Also 2 HIV TESTS have been negative. What do I do?

Murebo Takoto, Lagos

Dear Murebo,

Looking at all your symptoms, my educated, experienced and professional guess is, you are looking for the answer in the wrong place. Malaria and typhoid? I don’t think so. I think you had sex with a certain girl. And this sex you had got you into trouble. You contacted a disease called Chronic Prostatitis. It is what is responsible for your pain in the scrotum after a prolonged erection and sperm-like fluid coming out of the penis; stomach rumbling and waist pain. I will not be surprised if the germ causing your problems is Staphylococcus. The way to find out and authenticate or deny all this is to do a laboratory test of both your semen and your urine called microscopy, culture and sensitivity. Because of the many complications of Staphylococcus including a generalized depression of the sufferer’s immunity, your malaria and typhoid and other diseases got at you and you have not been able to cure them. The internal body heat and a times at the sole of the feet are symptoms of what is called Somatisation Syndrome; a function of anxiety neurosis which generally may follow problems with the genitals for men, seeing that such challenges can be very stressful for men. You can get fully well, but you must look for doctors who understand what is going on. specialists called urologists and very good doctors are the category I am talking about. Chronic Prostatitis never goes away without treatment--adequate ones at that. So get to work to treat yourself.You can call the help-lines.

Cheers

Dr.Caleb Bibbi Oluranti

08033466574; 08028240983; 08093142261; 08156697540

Can I Ever Get Married With Discharge From the Penis?

I Can’t Even Think Of Getting Married!!!

Dear Dr.
Please I need help. I have been having this problem for almost 10 years now with hotness of the stomach and all my body, itching in the private part, movements and vibration all over my body, under my scrotum and feet, discharge from my penis whenever I am in the toilet, slight boils on my body, among others. And since then, I have been taking numerous drugs, antibiotics, including herbal medicine and all to no avail. After taking the drugs, the symptoms will go down to come up again in no time.  I cannot even think of getting married as it stands now. Please Dr. I really need your help, as I am confused, devastated and sad, and I don’t really know what to do. Please Sir is this ailment curable and will I ever be able to father a child, because I know it also results to infertility.

Nonye Daniels, Abuja

Dear Nonye,

You are at your last doctor's office because WE WILL CURE YOU. No more doctors after me because by the grace of Almighty God, YOU WILL GET WELL. You however, need to note that treatment is not cheap but actually costly although we are pocket friendly.

The first error in your treatment is that the treatments you have been taking that you said got you better only to return again, were not taken for the appropriate PROLONGED periods of time for the problem to completely resolve.

Secondly, we cannot afford to waste time, now that we know the above. The longer the germs stay, the more havoc to your ability to be a man to your woman and a father.

When we treat you, you’ll need to make a commitment to begin and pursue treatment to its total end so you will finish your prolonged course of treatment from a to z. Then there will be no further returns or recrudescence of your disease.

Once we finish you will marry and get your wife pregnant by yourself; simple. It is Chronic Prostatitis caused by Staphylococcus aureus alone or with other germs that has caused you the movements/the vibrations/ the discharges/ the pains/ the itching/the hotness/ the performance issues/ the fear (and very likely the reality) of infertility through low sperm count/ the boils and others. Once we fully interview and examine you we will tell you the course and cost of your treatment because treatment is custom-made; not everybody manifests the disease the same way. As you begin to use your medicines, you will continue to get well never to have the disease return.

Cheer up, by the grace of God, WE WILL CURE YOU!

Dr. Caleb Bibbi Oluranti; 08033466574; 08028240983(w); 08093142261; 08156697540