ACHING ANUS AND WET DREAMS

Dear Doctor, Good day sir. I have a kind of ache in my anus. It was not there before. I just saw it and if I go to excrete I sometimes feel pain. I don't know what to do. I would be glad to hear from you soon. Dennis Saggei, Warri, Delta Dear Dennis, If you feel this pain principally when you go to stool and you do not bleed, then we can safely assume that perhaps your stools are hard--in other words you get constipation and that it is this constipated, hard stools that are the cause of the aching anus. You must understand that hard stools are the leading cause of a dozen or so conditions that can ache your anus; especially if associated with stooling. Other conditions are a)Cuts in the skin or tissues(we call these fissure-in-ano) of the anus --again; dry hard stools cause this, leading to b)infection and maybe c)a boil or d)an abscess. This may end up as d)a "fistula-in-ano" when the pus from the abscess causes a track in the tissues as it tries to find it's way out. e)Injury to the bum as well as e)Anal sex f)Pile or hemorrhoids especially when they are clotted and g)infected; h)STD's and proctalgia fugax,a self limiting condition common among teenagers as well as i)prolapse of the rectum; common among women who have delivered many babies -- ALL can also cause aching anus. It is only after you have seen a good doctor and he has listened to your full description of the problem, cross examined and physically looked you up can anyone say which of these causes you have. Before you see the doctor, these half a dozen measures will help you tremendously a)Sit on warm water at least twice a day --sitz bath it's called b) Drink lots of water--up to 10 glasses a day--2 each on waking and rising and at each meal; c)Eat a good portion of one of these fruits/vegetables daily so as to get plenty of fibre into your gut which will automatically soften your stool--pawpaw, pineapple, garden eggs, water melon, cucumber, apples and golden melon-- d)Go to stool once nature calls--do not delay until it is unbearable; e)Get lots of exercise; f)-- and I call this "Dr Oluranti's Technical Knock Out"-- use some Vaseline or other lubricant on your finger to lubricate your anal canal before you stool and no matter how hard the stools, they will be easily and greasily slipped out of your system with great relief. Try these and give me feedback Cheers Dr Caleb Bibbi Oluranti WET DREAMS AND MARRIAGE? Dear Doctor, Is it normal for a man who has not known any woman to be having wet- dreams? That is, after having dreamt of seeing a woman (either naked or not) and in the process, through an instinct; his body releases watery substance (sperm). How normal or abnormal is it? When he now want to relate with his wife can this affect the release of sperm having experience wet-dreams before? How true is it that one should meet his wife 15 days after her period? What happens if one does so before or after the completion of 15 days? What method does a man who did not have initial experience with any woman apply when meeting his wife for the first time? Or how does he go about it having no experience with a woman before? Babalo Mauhe, Kogi Dear Babalo, Wet dreams are very common among adolescent(teenage) and young adult males but can happen to any male at any age. They are of two major types--the normal and the abnormal. The first is normal wet dreaming. Again, this normal type has two categories. The first category of normal happens once in a while and is because the system keeps producing millions of sperm cells which are not used up in a male that is not sexually active. Just like a woman menstruates every month when she is not gotten pregnant so also does a man who is not sexually active release an accumulation of sperm cells via wet dreams once in a while. This is a normal thing. The second category of normal is when a man stimulates himself --through over concentration in his mind or with his eyes or thoughts on the opposite sex. This will cause a normal excitement of his system which will result in wet dreams more often than the first category. We can see and understand that this type is psychological. There are two types of abnormal wet dreaming. The first is physical only. It happens because the man has a disease called Chronic Prostatitis.This wet dreaming is frequent and many times, vivid--the man sees himself actually having sex in the dream and releasing semen as a result. Or he may not really have the sex but just be in preparation to. Chronic Prostatitis has other clinical features -- discharge from the prostate without any sexual stimulation; back ache and or other varieties and types of pain in the pelvis--things moving in the organ; painful penis scrotum, testes; groin; pudendum(underneath the genitals), anus etc etc; sexual inadequacy of all types -- especially premature ejaculation that was not present before; frequency of urination and so on. Again, there may be no symptoms or signs at all. It is diagnosed by carefully seeking germs and an appropriate immune reaction in either the urine and/or the semen or the prostatic fluid -- sometimes after the patient has voided urine. Many germs can cause prostatitis -- some of them are E. Coli; Staphylococccus; Candida; trichomoniasis, viruses--among the non-sexually transmitted ones and gonorrhea and chlamydia among the sexually transmitted. The second type of abnormal wet dreaming, I am afraid, is spiritual more than physical. Here, a man has a sexual encounter with a lady and three or four things begin to happen from the time he had the encounter. a) Sexual Inadequacy of various types descend on him-- premature ejaculation, only one round, weak erection and so on. b)He begins to have wet dreams c)In these wet dreams the particular girl or lady he had the index sexual encounter with becomes very prominent--as in he either begins to see her or her cohorts in the dreams more frequently or the location or elements of his encounter with her continue to plague him either in the dreams or in the mind and d) He often also has a Chronic prostatitis --which may or may not have any symptoms. This category of men usually receive treatment for Chronic Prostatitis over and over again but either never get well or never get well fully or get well now but fall ill later(usually after another bout of this their wet dreaming--but he may not know, poor man!!). They may also notice they have dwindling financial fortunes and difficulty making babies and or progress in other ways. The remedy is to see a doctor/urologist who also understands the link between the physical, the mental and the spirirtual and like you can discern from this answer we have helped many folks tackle this very delicate problem before and can confidently say we get total cures for those who strictly follow the treatment regimens which we give them.Chronic Prostatitis, you see, is a very notoriously difficult ailment to treat by any practitioner--doctor, urologist or alternative anywhere in the world. Now can a man with no sexual experience get these problems? Yes. The last type can come on a man even if he had nothing to do with the said girl--all she needs is to pick a strong interest in him --she can--and often does -- meet him in the dreams, remember? As for the psychological type -- of course a man can also have it without sex. The physical and normal type of wet dreaming, we have said occurs mainly in the unmarried or the married who have, in recent times, not been sexually active. Inexperience with sex before marriage is not a bad thing if the man is willing to learn--either from his wife or from books or from experts.Of course the wife, too, may not know too much so we are definitely not advocating that you wait take lectures from your wife. It is very bad if a man will behave like someone I met recently who was suffering from premature ejaculation dating back to since he began having sex--a well to do, educated man who asked me -- what is premature ejaculation? It transpired that he did not know; was guilty of it and all he did during sex with wife or girl-friends was just satisfy himself. He did not know he had to help his partner to reach orgasm during sex!!! We have written a manual that will help you if you are in this category. Just send us an e mail to find out how to get it. In summary, get books to educate yourself so you can be ready for your matrimonial privileges/duties. You'll also learn there is no magic about 15 days after menses to have sex for babies --if you'll reach out and read up on these things, that is. You don't need to turn promiscous--that carries the risk of STD's and HIV/AIDS. Cheers Dr Caleb Bibbi Oluranti