I Am Always Nervous; Help!!!

 

I Am Always Nervous; Help!!!

Please Sir,

I am in a desperate need of a solution to this problem. I am a secondary school leaver. Right from my secondary school days I have been experiencing this problem. The problem is this, whenever I talk to a person, address a congregation or had an encounter with somebody, I am always nervous and after that I can not write as a result of the nervousness. Last year I visited a doctor and he told me that it is palpitation that it will stop soon but I have been waiting patiently for it to stop but to no avail. I am not comfortable with this, so I need a way out of this mess. Doctor, I hope I'm not going mad or something? Please reply via, my e-mail because as a secondary school leaver I may not be opportune to read it.
Sulaiman Afikuyomi, Ilorin

Dear Sulaiman,
Such nerves as you complain of usually have a discernible origin which a skilled doctor/psychologist/psychotherapist//psychiatrist can help you ferret out. These roots/origins are usually some conflict or the other at the base of your mind or emotions. Are there any hidden worries or anxieties or guilt or tension? These are the kinds of questions he will be looking for answers to.
Then he can tackle it. The condition is referred to as an anxiety neurosis, almost bordering on a phobia. What to do? Go seek out a professional who understands the mind -- like the ones above. Where to find them? Try General Hospitals, Specialist Hospitals; Teaching Hospitals. You can be treated. Help is available.
Madness? Oh no!!Truly, when we talk mind and psychiatry, most people think madness. Psychologists, psychotherapists and psychiatrists are not always treating madness; okay? There are much simpler, milder and harmless problems of the mind called Neuroses that we all can suffer from -- like Depression-- and they are really skilled in helping out with such concerns. Madness is another kettle of tea and I daresay your fears must be properly laid to rest by telling you what are the tell-tale features of madness-- which you do not have but which I list here just to help anyone with fears similar to yours to sort themselves out. When a person is going mad you begin to notice other symptoms apart from the ones you mentioned --things that affect the person's character especially -- character changes-- like)Coldness vs Normal Warmth; b)Concern Gone; c)May hear voices; d)Sleeplessness; e)Mannerisms and habits have changed--won't do some things they are normally very fond of;
f)Violence; g)May see things others do not see; h)Mood changes -- may be too joyful or too depressed for normal; i)Withdrawal; j)Verbal Attacks and negative words and curses on people; k)Wanting to undress in public; l)Hallucinations; m)Jumpiness and fear; n)Aggressiveness; o)Incorrigible-ness; p)Irritability-- 
q)Fights Easily; r)Paranoia -- or a feeling; frequently expressed-- that normally harmless things or people want to harm the patient; s)Quarrelsomeness-- Quarrels with everyone and everything -- fights her relatives; attacks driver; uses a knife or other harmful instruments to threaten; suddenly tears others clothing; t)Denial of reality; u)Anger, or Wrath -- as in great anger)Violence; and so on. 
All of that is bad news. The good news, of course, is that all these can be controlled and suppressed. At whatever level --whether just beginning or the one that has progressed a little bit. Just see the right professionals. Call the help-lines; send a text/ e mail       
 Cheers