How Can I Make my wife Feel Me?

How Can I Make My Wife Feel Me? Good day sir, My name is Iyaamu and I'm 42 years. I’m writing cos I came across your column in an old Daily Sun newspaper. I went to a hospital to do a semen analysis and it returned: Volume-3.5mls, motility-active 35%, sluggish 25% Dead 40% Count:21.1 million cells, consistency- slightly viscous. And at the end they wrote No growth. Honestly I did not understand a thing in the test, I didn't see the doctor to interpret it for me cos they said I should pay another money for the doctor to interpret and before I went for the test, my wife of three years do always complain that I don't ejaculate inside her which I know I do and always tell her so but she always insist that she doesn't feel anything inside when I said I had come. This made me to go for the test and what I want to know now is if my condition is treatable and how. We have no child yet. Thanks. Iyaamu Gbinigie Benin. Dear Iyaamu, You must start by telling your wife that you ejaculate; you ejaculate inside her and you are capable of impregnating her. How do I know? The tests you did prove these from the result. First, you cannot produce semen as a male unless you ejaculate. If then your wife knows and appreciates that you both have sex and make love and during this your organ is inside of her and comes out limp even though it went in erect, you are ejaculating and doing it inside her. Because, you could never produce semen as a man unless you get an erection and you discharge semen at ejaculation. If it happened when you wanted to collect semen for the test, it is happening the same way when you are inside her. Why then is she not feeling it? Anxiety associated with her long-time delay in getting pregnant; that's all. Her anxiety has depressed her ability to feel you. Nothing else. It is a normal thing to find anxiety causing all kinds of distortions of perception; so please do not worry. As it is important also for madam to lose her anxiety so as to help her get pregnant, please do all you can to share this mail with her to calm her fears. You are normal in every way. The normal volume of semen ejaculated by males is 2 to 5 mls; you have 3.5, so you passed. When the total sperm count in the ejaculate is higher than 20million per ml, the man CAN impregnate a woman. The normal is 20 to 300 million. Some authorities quote 60 to 300 million. I once had a man from Maiduguri come to see me in Lagos whose sperm count was 750million per ml!!! The point is your own 20.1 million is higher than 20 million. So, again, you passed. When the question is the quality and not the number of sperm cells, you still get a pass mark -- it is normal once over 40% of the sperm cells are alive (the vigorous and highly motile plus the sluggish). In your case, 25% plus 35% is 60%. You need just 40% at the least. Now, these your figures, though okay, can be bettered or boosted with treatment with which we are willing to help you if you ask. So just call the helplines and we'll be very glad to help you. Cheers