Menstrual Pains Cured by Dangerous Sex; Help!!

Menstrual Pains Cured by Dangerous Sex; Help!! Hi Doctor, I love reading your column each time I have the opportunity of coming across Daily Champion. I actually like the way you answer other people problems. I have this problem bothering my mind.I know almost every thing concerning reproductive health because I went for a course on it sometime in 1998. My problem now is that, though I know when I'm ovulating,I also know which of the ovaries is bringing out the egg because I used to have a sharp pain on the side from which the egg is coming out. The pain then wasn't painful as it is now. Right now, it comes as if I'm having menstrual cramps but if I make love with my boyfriend 2days before my ovulation, there won't be any pains and I will still know when I'm ovulating. Making love at this time I know it's dangerous.What can I do to reduce this pain apart from making love? If I don't make love with my boyfriend 2days before my menses, I always have serious cramps.But if I do make love, though there will be cramps, but they'll be not too painful.I also take the contraceptive called Postinor 2 times precisely. But I took it on the 8th day of my menstrual cycle sometime last year but instead of ovulating on the 14th day (I have a 28day cycle)I started bleeding and it came for 5days like my normal menses does and I still menstruate on the 28th day which is my normal way. Could there have been a problem then?Please don't publish my name and email address and I will really appreciate it if a copy of the reply can be sent to my box. Rachel Obeigher, Gboko, Benue Dear Rachel, I must commend the fact that you are into contraceptives to stop unwanted pregnancy. You see Nigerian women are Champion contraception avoiders even though they are knowledgeable about it--many surveys have shown this worrisome fact. Your post-sex contraceptive is the cause of the bleeding --nothing wrong. This drug may act this way in some people. Not to worry. Yes, sex at the point in question is too dangerous-- you are in great danger of getting pregnant and remember, as contraception pre-sex is better than contraception after (or post) sex. So for prevention, use either plain old condoms or spermicide tablets--insert in place just before sex or take the 3monthly injections.Go to a doctor or to the Planned Parenthood office to ask for these shots. For pain, Hyoscine tablets will do very wonderfully and it's important you get this point well because it is the pains you have that are the cause of your having compulsory sex around ovulation-- very risky and the best recipe for unwanted babies. If you come to see us we'll help you further with me useful medicines and injections to put an end to these pains. Of course it will cost you something but nothing compared to an unwanted pregnancy. Try this and let us know how you fare. Finally, try and get married soonest and if you have problems with this and you'd like some help, send me an e mail on the subject--I'm also a pastor who has expertise in that particular area of ministry. Cheers

Bleeding And Pain During Sex

 Dear Dr. Bibbi,

I sometimes feel pain and bleed during sexual intercourse. What might be the problem? My monthly period is not too regular. It does not come on time and when it comes, it does not flow normally and I sometimes see lumps of clotted blood coming out.Please advise me. I need your reply Thanks.
Tina Noi-Bas, Port Harcourt


Dear TNB,
You'll be careful to understand that all I say here is only an educated guess, since you definitely need to be examined properly after medical consultation and intervi
ew first. Especially since you bleed after sex and because it could be cancer. But here are some conditions the doctor would be thinking of while listening to you --as he plans to eliminate or confirm them in your case by appropriate tests. 1.Vaginal tears from 2. Rough sex; or 3. Overlarge male organ; 4.Are you a virgin just being disvirgined? 5.Do you have a bleeding disorder? 6.Or have used drugs that may make the blood over- thin--like Warfarin; or 7.Aspirin; or 8.Oral Contraceptives? Do you have 9.Vaginal Infection like thrush-- candidiasis? or 10. Chlamydia(an STD) or 11. Chronic Cervicitis or 12.Cervical Erosion? These are all apart from 13. Cancer of the cervix which we mentioned first.We will mention, last,14.Cervical polyp. All of these conditions and more remote ones could cause bleeding with sex. Pain with sex or Dyspareunia is usually caused by PID--Pelvic Inflammatory Disease or Endometriosis or some vulvitis or Vestibulitis or Vaginitis. Now from this long list, you'll agree with me that tracking down the cause of your problem cannot be taken for granted. Only as you find a good doctor/gynecologist and follow due process will you be able to diagnose and put an end to your potentially dangerous situation. Act fast. Call the helplines.
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I Need A D&C!!

I Need A D&C!! Dear Doctor I am very happy to know that there are still good and helpful doctor around to render help and consultation. May God enrich and enlarge your coast. I am pregnant ( one month plus) but i don't want to do D &C please there anything i can do apart from D&C. Please my education is at stake. pleeeeeeeeeeeease I need an urgent answer. THANKS (WORRIED GIRL) Dear Worried Girl, Sorry. But if your mum did what you thinking of ... where would you be now? So, next time be more careful. Easy contraception now exists --no girl in this modern day of fertility awareness and control should go through what you are experiencing. Even after rape, we now have drugs that can prevent un-wanted pregnancy--even after rape! Send me an e mail to doctorbibbi@yahoo.co.uk and docmarrylove@yahoo.com requesting fertility control information and I'd be glad to send what you need know to you. For next time (if there is a next time -- and there shouldn't be), practice what you'll learn from the free report and prevent this situation. For now, have your baby-- d'you know if you'll ever have another? Then go back to your education --it can be done. Don't murder another human being because it's Creator will ask you about that baby one day--that's the truth!!! Cheers

Married But Still a Virgin

Dear Maggie: Married but still a virgin "My husband and I were virgins on our wedding night. As Christians we knew this was what God wanted and felt it would be best for us too. Not that we found it easy to keep our hands off each other before the big day. Trouble is - six months later we are still virgins! On our honeymoon we had lots of fun in bed but when it came to intercourse I felt too small. My husband felt pleased when I told him he was huge. But I was scared and he just didn’t fit in me! I was mortified. Months later we still hadn’t managed it and our doctor wasn’t much help. He just gave me some lubricating cream and a plastic tube to stretch my vagina and told my husband if I couldn’t relax he should go to the courts and have our marriage annulled. I feel such a failure - dreams of a happy marriage and children are going up in smoke. Now we face public humiliation. Instead of being a pleasure sex has become an unbearable pressure. Help!" "I’m so glad you wrote in, as these problems get worse if we don’t share them, but can most definitely be resolved with the right help. What you are dealing with is one of the most common female psychosexual dysfunctions: a disorder called ‘vaginismus’. It is caused by an involuntary spasm of the musculature of the outer third of the vagina. Unfortunately, it is more common among people with a strong faith background, so is something we should know about in the Christian world. “Going to court to get your marriage annulled” is terrible advice. You can overcome this problem and have a happy sex life, with every chance of conceiving children in the future. The starting point for this vaginismus is that you “felt too small” and that you were “scared” about him “fitting” inside you. These anxieties have caused your otherwise perfectly stretchable vaginal tissue to seize up in a tight spasm. The truth is that once you can learn to relax this muscle spasm, your vaginal entrance can stretch large enough for a baby’s head to get through! I recommend you start by learning to insert the tip of your own finger, holding it inside your vaginal entrance until any anxiety dies down. You can combine this with ‘Kegel exercises’ where you pull up your PC muscles like a lift going from the ground floor up and then releasing it back down again. If you are unsure what these muscles contracting feel like, they are the same ones as you would use if you are going to the toilet and stop the flow of urine. If you do this exercise with your finger inside your vaginal entrance, you will be able to feel your muscles tightening and loosening. The idea is that you get to the point where you can chose to loosen these muscles when you want to have intercourse with your husband. However big he is, once your muscles are loosened, he will fit in. I suggest at this stage that you see a Psychosexual therapist. They can also check for any contributory physical factors that may be causing the vaginismus. Sometimes this is things like vaginitis, a rigid hymen, endometriosis or genital tract infections. A third of people presenting with vaginismus have some form of physical cause linked to the condition. These can then be treated. Your Psychosexual therapist will help you use vaginal dilators effectively, which is the plastic tubes and lubricating cream your doctor is talking about. (See www.pharmacy2u.co.uk Amielle comfort vaginal trainers). These can most definitely work, if administered with care. While you use them it is best initially not to attempt intercourse with your husband. These dilators will help stretch your vaginal entrance and train your muscles to receive something coming inside you, without it hurting. Once you are comfortable with them, you can then progress to intercourse. Love is ‘patient’ as Paul reminds us in that much-quoted 13th chapter in 1 Corinthians. In the meantime, can I encourage you both to get back into the fun you were having in bed and that feeling of not wanting to keep your hands off each other! You can do all this without worrying about penetration for now. God given sexual intimacy is about a lot more than penetration and procreation. It’s about an emotional and spiritual intertwining that is expressed in the physical. Enjoy the wonder of the love God has given you, give attention to the practical things I have outlined above and sex will become the pleasure that God intended for you." Taken from Premier Christian Media. Authored by Maggie Ellis

WHY WET DREAMS?

WHY WET DREAMS? Dear Sir, I must sincerely say I'm pleased with the way you solve problems.Here are some questions from me to you sir ! 1. What causes wet dreams? 2.How can it be stopped? It started some years ago after stopping masturbation and hoping to begin enjoying a new life this problem started, Please advice me on how to stop it. I'll expect your reply as soon as possible. Wellington Wabara, Enugu Dear Wellington, Mature men must have a few wet dreams on occasion. A physical condition called Chronic prostatitis is a times associated with wet dreaming. Psychologically, if you have a crush on some lady it will not be strange your mind to populate your dreams with herself and cohorts maybe to the extent of having wet dreams involving her Spiritually, the difference is the unusual frequency of the wet dreams, the unusual persona populating the dreams, the unusual regularity of these people appearing in amorous situations with you in these dreams and the worrisome and strange happenings or goings-on in such dream encounters. Solution? The adult male should get married. The urine should be tested as well as the semen and any penile discharge to prove or deny Chronic Prostatitis which should then be diligently and painstakingly treated since neglect in any way will result in failed treatment --a very common problem in Chronic Prostatitis. Further, psychological infatuation should not be indulged in. Spiritually very strong deliverance prayers should be engaged in by the sufferer or by others interceding for them. We can help with every one of these steps and have done so with success for many Cheers