Sodomy, Sadism, Sin, Satisfaction?

Dear Dr. Bibbi,

Having read some of your features in your column I am persuaded that you are in a position to disabuse my mind on the upsetting questions raised in this mail. I will be very grateful for your instructive, intelligible and honest answers to the following questions--- that I call WORRYING QUESTIONS ON SEX AND RELATIONSHIPS/MARRIAGE -- I am 28 and planning to get married soon. Is it advisable for me marrying a man 18 – 25 years older than me?
Is fellatio and cunnilingus (oral sex) the same thing as sodomy? I know sodomy is a sin and an abomination before God and man. But what about fellatio and cunnilingus? Is it okay to engage in it? We have a clean health bill. Can a circumcised woman experience clitoral excitement and orgasm? Can a circumcised woman experience serial or multiple orgasms? Is it right, and is it a sin for one to masturbate? Will it enhance or inhibit future sexual enjoyment or excitement? Is it harmful to swallow semen during oral sex? Has it got any effect on the female person, such as weight increase? Will the fondling of my nipples and breasts by my partner increase their sizes and weight? It is safe to do vaginal douching?
Please treat as confidential.Hoping to hear from you soon.
Yours faithfully,
Virginia King, Surulere,Lagos

Dear Virginia,
Here are common-sense answers anyone will have a hard time refuting.When you say, "is it right"?, you must realize we have gone away from just science to value and moral judgments which is okay because human beings are wired to think right or wrong about almost everything. Once we agree we are moral in nature, then we need absolute right and wrong judgments on a lot of matters and this is where moral and religious instruction come in. So here goes -- answers to your queries-- marry ANYONE YOU LOVE -- that's all-- older or not;okay? Because Adam was created first, the man tends to be older; no problem.Sodomy is different and CATEGORICALLY labelled a SIN; nowhere in the Bible do we see even a HINT that oral sex is displeasing to God.Rather, there are scriptures that seem to imply it is okay. However, LOVE is most important -- if a partner has issues with oral sex, the one that does not must go without until both can see eye to eye. If anyone engages in something they think is wrong--even if and when it is not wrong-- that person has sinned; so be careful and be agreed. Sexual perversion of all types are mentioned negatively in the Bible; yet you find ABSOLUTELY NO WORD AGAINST oral sex;not a SINGLE word. Prostitution,Bestiality,Adultery, Fornication, Fantasizing, Sodomy; Incest -- God warns against each and every one severally but says nothing about oral sex at all!! Lets understand that God must know what He wants and what He doesn't want and understands human nature better than us. Circumcision steals from clitoral excitement and negatively affects orgasm.Women should never be circumcised.For a circumcised woman to have multiplied O's. Her husband has to be very very good and patient in his techniques. Because nobody can masturbate without fantasizing -- which Jesus expressly warned against --masturbation is a No-No. Masturbation has broken marriages -- when a partner finds they prefer masturbation to the real thing.This happens!! It is compulsive -- that is, difficult to stop; so should be avoided. Swallowing semen is absolutely a non-issue-- no weight gain,no pregnancy, nothing. Fondling breasts unfortunately do not have those effects --it simply arouses both the man and the woman. Douching is very wrong and harmful to women-- it seriously unbalances their vaginal environmental chemistry and allows disease-- infections and so on to overtake them. Don't do it.
Cheers

Dr.Caleb Bibbi Oluranti