Premature Ejaculation; Bed-Wetting

Dear Doctor, As a regular reader of your column, family health, I believe you will respond to these my problems:- (1)Premature ejaculation I started noticing this sickness at 19 when I had my first sexual intercourse. And up till now, the sickness remains with me. This makes me to feel much embarrassed now than that of my initial time. Whenever, I have sexual intercourse, before 10 – 15 seconds I have released. Sometimes I will refuse to romance with my partner to avoid releasing before the real sex, which is not enjoyable. (2)Inability to go more than one (1) round after this ejaculation prematurely. This makes me to feel unhappy whenever my partner asked me why can’t me go twice. (3)Bed Wetting: Earlier, this problem happens to me whenever I had a dream where I’m playing with a partner and before I know it I have released but now it is almost everyday and it makes me to feel totally fatigue after the releasing. Please, Doctor, I am very worried about this problem and believe you will do something about the remedies. May God Almighty continue to shower his blessings upon you and your family in Jesus name. Amen. Please, Doctor, I will like you to send this reply back with your real contact address with phone number if it is possible. Or you send E-mail through Thanks. Yours faithfully, Malami Bagauda, Hadija, Kano Dear Malami, Your bed-wetting is the challenge that worries me the most among your troubles.adults do not bed-wet unless there is something deeply wrong -- to be found not in the mind or body, but usually in the spirit. This is corroborated by the fact that your bed-wetting is dream-related. Little kids bed -wet and generally we attribute this to various physical factors. Adolescents that bed-wet are known to have psychological challenges they are unable to handle which a good psychologist /psychiatrist can help them with. Adults bed-wetting is a totally different kettle of fish. Definitely, e get as e be!!! Your premature ejaculation and only one round is Chronic Prostatitis and as you noticed, will not ever go away by itself. You need expert treatment and will benefit from our expertise.The spiritual angle to your problems as for every other human being gets well sorted out if you learn to pray.We help needful folks with this without upsetting their religious inclinations.Just call the hep-lines. Cheers

Will Chest Pain Kill Me? Help!!

Good day sir, I want to use this medium to thank you for the work you have been doing to many Nigeria and worldwide. More grease to your elbow, sir. I want to share my own problem with you and I know you can help me as well. Sir, it all started in 2005, when I was schooling. I discovered that I have been experiencing pain whenever I go to urinate. It was not all that serious because it will come and go. Not until 2008, I discover that the pain is still trigger me and by then I went to a private hospital here in Abuja and did a urine and HIV test and I was told that I have staphylococcus and my HIV status is negative because then I do have internal heat, some time blood in my urine, body weakness hotness in my body and so on. Because of the money I was told to pay before treatment commenced which I couldn't pay I stopped the treatment then. Sir, I was living with the pain in my body till December, 2010 and I went back to the same hospital and did another test both HIV and the result still show that I have staph and my HIV status still remain negative but sir, am afraid. Sir, the main reason why I am writing to you this note is that, now I am having chest pain about one month plus; I did not hit my chest on anything. Although, the urinating pain is not often the reason I said it is that, sometimes I will not feel the pain like two week but any week it will come I will not feel better. Sir, I am afraid I may have liver problem or what could be the problem that my chest is paining me? Please give me some health tip and as well advice me on what to do because am tired of living with this pain. Sir, tell me what is wrong with me? Also, the money I was as pay in the hospital I went to is N120,000.00 for three months treatment but I don't have such money to be sincere with you. I will commit suicide because of this problem. Sir, I was born in 1984. Thank you so much for your kind gesture and I believe you will treat my own case with levity. Please Sir, reply me through this email as I will not have the opportunity to get the answer on news paper in case you want to publish it. Yours Faithfully, Ama from Abuja. Dear Ama, First, you or anyone else, for that matter, must never allow the weeds of evil, threatening and fatal thoughts in our minds—for, as a man thinks, so is he. Mind affects matter--it's a fundamental rule of existence; because everything in the real, physical world was first a thought in the mind -- you yourself; the car you ride; the house you live in and so on. So since seeds eventually turn to fruits, be careful about the seeds you plant in your mind. You WILL NOT COMMIT SUICIDE at all -- courtesy of God's goodness and this intervention; Amen. Second, I swear to you by all I learnt in medicine in 40 years (including 7 years of studentship), if you do not treat this problem and treat it correctly, IT WILL NOT GO BY ITSELF; OKAY? Three, as an adult, the earlier you learn that in life there is no free lunch, the better. Please forget those dreams of free treatment and begin an intelligent struggle to source the funds you need to get well; -- that's just the way it is. Four, we are however, pocket -friendly in our approach to curing people; so relax. Five, the disease will not kill you --it's because your imagination is in overdrive that you fear so; Six, understand that when fears, worries, anxieties and so on overwhelm the mind, there are bodily symptoms that follow suit. These bodily symptoms help the human being to go RESOLVE THE CONFLICTS. The symptoms constitute what we call psychoneuroses and they come and go. They are fear-driven; fear-engineered and fear-founded. Once you understand this the symptoms tend to go away. Your chest problems, I believe, fall into this category. Just see us and we’ll help resolve everything. Finally, this does not mean that you do not have an actual disease of the body. You do and I suspect it is Chronic Prostatitis. You did say that he problem began in school. You never mentioned a woman but the truth is that I’d be very surprised if it has no basis in sexual escapades which boys are notorious for. These diseases are only half-treated when as a boy you catch them and the germs go and hide in the man’s prostate; affecting him with chronic disease for many years. We will cure you. You will need to come see us for a thorough, diligent and detailed check up to confirm or deny these impressions. Folks do come from all the ends of Nigeria – Kano; Sokoto; Calabar; Ogbomosho; Jos; Bayelsa; Port Harcourt; Abakaliki; Onitsha – even from the Camerouns, Ghana and Benin. We have sent our address to you and will send same to anyone who calls or e mails for it. Check www.mediamedix.blogspot.com for further information Cheers

Urticaria,Allergy,Itching

Dear Doctor, I want to appreciate the effort that u put in solving people's medical problems through your column in the Sun. I have a problem which has persisted 4 a long tyme despite several medications and tests bit which bothers me a lot. I hope u will be able to help me. I usually have some swellings on all parts of my body, especially when the weather is hot. It's been disturbing me for the past six yrs. I have carried out all sorts of tests and taken all sorts of medication. ai have also met very many doctors on the issue but all i usually get is just temporary respite as it usually reoccurs. Most say it is filariasis and some other high sounding diseases. I dont want to know what it is. All i want is treatment 4 it. I hope u will be able to help me. Sometimes, I woke up with a swollen face. It is usually very embarrassing. And it itches like hell. Pls help me. Thanks and God bless u. Duke, Uyo Sorry about your plight, but I want to quote you in answer to your queries. First you have seen many doctors -- well I'd like to say to you and many out there who say the same, this is your last Bus stop; okay? All you need do is determine to follow my prescriptions -- do as you are told and you will get your results; that is all. What you have simply is urticaria. I think I explained it about two weeks ago and I quote: Swellings and Itching hi doc, good afternoon doc,i do read ur column n i c how u answer pples question,pls i have 2 questn n i will want u 2 answer it. 1.i do have a swollen body[all parts of my body]dat do pain n at times it do come with itching,after some time it will go. 2.after i gave birth 2 my baby my tummy has refused 2 go back 2 d normal size. pls i want u 2 profer a lasting solutn 2 all have said, may be u can prescibe a drug.n pls i need d answer 2 dis question urgently. tnks,Tessy, Lagos pls don't publish my mail addy. Dear Tessy, Itchy swelling that comes a times and goes away after a little while is urticaria and is due to allergy. Chlorpheniramine is good to use when it comes but the real solution is to find what you are allergic to and control that. Allergy, by the way is you reacting to something others do not react to. Some allergens-- stuff that cause allergy in these special people are mites found in house- dust, pollen grains, sea foods like cray-fish, fish and crabs, food allergens found in milk, feathers of birds and the hair of cats and so on. try to find what cause or triggers your own swelling and itching and make sure you remove it from your environment. The addresses and names you see are changed; but the letters are very real. Cheers Great. Now let me quote you again. You say you do not want to know what it is. Sad, very sad. Because, it's like Moh'd Ali going into the ring blindfolded-- no matter that he is world champion extraordinaire, whoever his opponent is, no matter how puny and weak, that opponent will defeat Ali. So, you must know -- and know for sure -- always -- in every battle in life -- do not -- never forget that; okay? Great. Lastly, treatment is simple once the enemy has been identified and now has a name. You will get well and forget all the years of your sorrow; okay? Just call the help lines now.

To Find Mr Right

To Find Mr Right Dear Doctor, I'm one of the readers of your column,YOU & UR HEALTH.I am a 21yrs old female student of OLABISI ONABANJO UNIVERSITY AGO IWOYE. Sir,I have a little problem. I started dating guys after my 20th birthday. Since that time till date, I have dated up to 6 guys at different times and I end up dumping them one after the other. The problem is I never really get to know them until I have spent time with them. So, after 2 or 3 weeks,I find out that we are not really compatible and then I quit. No sex. Now, the problem is, how do I find him(Mr Right) or how do I know if I have found him? I need someone who shares stuff with me, is compatible and makes me happy. I know no one is perfect. Please reply through my mailbox. Wanda Ademodi, Iyin-Ekiti, Dear Wanda, Your no sex policy is fantastic. Keep it up--it gives peace of mind and relative safety -- from STD's; HIV; Unwanted Pregnancy;Blocked Fallopian tubes; Ectopic Pregnancy; Infertility; Cancer of the Cervix; Criminal Abortion; Septic Abortion and Death. That's apart from all the bad blood; bad moods and bad conscience between you and the unwilling father of your unfortunate offspring. Remember, to abstain is the first, best and golden rule of prevention. Now, about boys-- I can tell from your write-up that you haven't found him yet. But keep looking; you definitely will find him. And when you do, you'll know--oh you'll know it so much that you'll be the one telling me and everyone else "I've found him!!" Suppose you were born blind but after an operation you can now see. Would you need anyone to tell you you are now seeing? No. You would know it without anyone telling you when you can see. That's the way it is. Keep looking and hoping. He'll soon surface, I guarantee you. How to find him faster? Have you tried prayer--deep; heart--felt and sincere? Cheers

Monthly Malaria!!!

Dr Caleb Bibbi Oluranti, Please l want to know this now and still tell me what to do about it l always having malaria every month l eating every well and taken tablet for it. please tell me what to do that can sustained for 6 month or forever. Please reply to me thanks. Remain blessed UMB, Benin City Dear UMB, Your complaint is one that is increasingly becoming rampant and I have the pleasure to reveal the approach to it that we have found very successful. About half a dozen factors come to mind when folks complain of frequent malaria at times like these in our clime: 1.Chloroquine Treatment Failure:divided into at least 3 or 4 subtypes. Most of us in Nigeria grew up learning that the drug of choice to treat malaria is chloroquine. Not any more!!! The bugs that cause malaria, known by the family name Plasmodium have about 4 brothers-- "Ovale", "Malariae" , "Vivax" and of course, the much dreaded "Falciparum"; the "firstborn" and toughest among them. This Falciparum Plasmodium or more correctly, Plasmodium falciparum causes chloroquine --resistant malaria. Even if one used all the correct doses of chloroquine, if the bug causing this particular episode of malaria is already chloroquine --resistant, then the result will be CTF. 2. The dosage of chloroquine -- even when people try to use it is generally incorrectly apprehended. For the avoidance of doubt; of course, it is 4, 4, 2 -- or 2, 2 1-- that is 4 tabs daily for 2 days and 2 tabs the third day, all taken at once each day; or half the dose for children from about 12 years up. Most folks trying to treat malaria never complete the dose--and that, with a drug that is getting increasingly less effective on account of parasite--resistance! Of course, they are going to get malaria again and again!!! So, that's another cause of CTF!!! 3. Injection Chloroquine. A subdivision of this type of factor is when doctors/health professionals give patients injection chloroquine to treat malaria--which is a faux pas-- never to be done.Excepting where the patient is vomiting. Injection chloroquine stays in the blood for only 6 hours; tablet forms stay for 28 days!!! 4. There is a fourth cause of CTF --the peculiarly Nigerian factor that Dr Mrs Dora Akunyili has been trying to fight so impressively-- and that is the faking of the drug itself. Most people do not understand the philosophy of faking. The drugs are tampered with or made to incorrect specifications-- containing maybe 20%, 70%, 90% or even 0% of the active ingredient; in this case, chloroquine. Of course this contributes to CTF also. 5.There is another Nigerian factor that I have learnt to develop a high index of suspicion for. And that is the Agbo (concoction) factor--- many Nigerians know--and correctly too-- that certain herbs --like the neem plant (dogoyaro); lemon grass and so on can be used to treat fevers. Of these I am also aware; but I think failure to get well follows on the incorrect application of dosages and duration of treatment --not to talk of method of preparation--- of the needed concoction. So a lot of people are trying to use herbs and not getting it correct and find themselves still suffering malaria. 5. But suppose it is no longer malaria -- or it was not even malaria in the first instance? It could be malaria or any of what I call the "Fifteen Funny Fevers" that a doctor must keep in mind when tackling a persistent fever of unknown origin. Is it typhoid--like above? Or a viral infection? All fever is not malaria. Malaria, Typhoid and Septicaemia (bacterial blood poisoning) should be the 3 in the first league. After which the doctor should list the Viral Fevers-- the general ones that cause debility or Flu-like symptoms of catarrh and so on; Hepatitis and the Upper respiratory tract infections-- pharyngotonsilitis, bronchitis, bronchiolitis. The enteric fevers--"younger brothers" to typhoid should never be forgotten. Then, of course should come the childhood--associated Pneumonia, Measles and Meningitis. That's at least all of ten. The ladies should not be forgotten with their PID (Pelvic Inflammatory disease), Upper (Pyelonephritis) and lower UTI, Cholecystitis ( or Gall Bladder infection) TB--Tuberculosis -- takes the rear. Now, the God--help--me truth is that you could be suffering any of these diseases --and more --Lassa Fever, Chronic Grumbling Appendicitis, --name it. You see, many diseases come up with a fever and it gets so confusing --but that is the job of the doctor. To have a high index of suspicion of certain diseases and ferret them out of their hiding places in your body by the appropriate interviewing, examination and investigations. 6.It is becoming more clear that some patients will benefit from a boost to their immunity when they begin to have too frequent bouts of malaria/typhoid or other fevers and I have found the simple solution a times is just to boost their immunity using the appropriate nutritional supplements --especially in high doses. I have found this to be highly effective in these types of cases. My advice to you is see a highly experienced doctor who will do a thorough check on you to get to the root of your complaints. Cheers PS Nobody uses ordinary Chloroquine to treat malaria anymore; what is used is Artemisinin in combination with any older ant-malarial-- maybe chloroquine or camoquine or fansidar or halofantrine or quinine etc. we call this new approach, Artemisisnin Based Combination (ABC) therapy and though this question borders on just chloroquine, even today with ABC, the truths outlined in this write -up are useful still

HIV Positve; Partner Negative

HIVPositve; Partner Negative DOCTOR, HAPPY NEW YEAR,MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS U 4 D GOOD WORK U ARE DOING. PLEASE I NEED U 2 EXPLAIN HOW WE we can start having babies. I am 26yrs HIV positive and I have a guy who wants 2 marry me. He is 34yrs and he is a lawyer he loves me and he wants 2 marry me but he said he does not know how we can start having babies without he contracting it.So i need your help and advice. I started taking d retroviral drugs since April 2011 and i discovered that my breast is bringing out milk. They prescribed bromagon 4 me I took d whole dose which is in d bottle but d milk is still coming out. So please i need your help i have not allowed him 2 touch me yet because I don't want him 2 know about d breast milk that is coming out and he said he wants to settle down as soon as possible with me. Please reply me. Thank u Laura, Lokoja Dear Laura, You must understand one thing, both of you. Love is the greatest. Love is the strongest force in the universe -- and that is what you both have between you and in your arsenal. Of course, if this boy does not love you, he cannot think of marrying you, no to talk of proposing; right? If you love him, tell him all-- milk from breast and all -- and see -- if he will not love you the more. You don't understand? Well God is love -- that's what the Good Book says!!! And many waters cannot quench the fire of love. Love also covers a multitude of sins; so be free and fully naked before your lover-- there is no fear in love; see? Good. Catching the disease? Well, even though there is love, it is always wise to be reasonable. Catching the disease from man to woman is faster than from woman to man; that’s for one -- this is because the surface area of the genitals from where the bug can be caught, you will agree is much wider in the woman than in the man. But again, you have been on ARV's -- so your viral load should be minimal. Now ARV's are soon to be free; it will be even easier to procure the precious meds. Another positive factor for both of you. Now, to catch disease from partner to the other is not automatic. The defense capabilities of all humans are not the same -- one person can resist disease better than another; so, it is possible he may never catch anything from you. If you add faith to all that and then one last ingredient -- make the faith active -- come see us or some other doctor/priest who understands these things-- I can guarantee you that you will never get him infected; okay? Nor your babies -- though transmission / infection rates from mother to child is like just 13 --20 %. Do not neglect to contact us — we can and will help you. So on balance I would encourage you to go for love --it conquers all things. To you the lady particularly I would say do not postpone marriage for any excuse or reason; okay? Marry your loving suitor and deal with the challenges in the way I suggested. You will testify. (But if after all I have said anyone of you still has some fears, forget what I said and play safe; okay? Faith works wonders, yes; but fear does the opposite; okay?) Cheers

Confused; Clarify--Sex,Staph,Prostate,STD's

Pls Doc, I am the one that called you yesterday, I am a 33yr old man from Enugu State. I have a serious problem which is trying to ruin my life.I engaged in a relationship which has resulted to marriage, presently I am now faced with these sexual problems. 1. I am unable to go more than one round , and release my load in a second. 2. After releasing I could not go again until the next day. 3.The most worried is that I cannot have and maintain a good and strong erection,my manhood always as soft as foam. 4. My early morning erection is no longer there. 5.During ejaculation my semen used to shoot but now it oozes out. Please I am always ashamed of my self whenever she calls for sex.I am thinking of loosing my life than leave and seeing myself in this unbearable condition. She is treating to leave me if there is no solution to it.I also pity her for what she has being undergoing for so long. I was subjected to a lab. test and below are the result. *Motility rate 10% Actively motile 30%. *Sperm count 5x1000000 cells. *Viscosity.. slightly viscous. *Pus cells... 1-3hpf ph 7.5. *Morphology..25% abnormal cells. The test also showed that I have a STAPH AUREUS infection. Please I still count on you for help. Do not publish. keep it secret.. thanks for your urgent reply. Andrew Youngers, Enugu Dear Andrew Youngers, Your case -- and this case I quote following-- "Please Sir, I am a 19 year old boy who needs your help urgently. I read an article in your column of Sun newspaper[4/05/05], it was there there I discovered I should mail you. My problem is that any time I go to use the toilet there is always this thing that comes out of my penis[like semen]. Sir I don't feel any pain except in my waist region. Please what is this . Is it CPR. I will appreciate your reply[ possibly soonest. [I've never slept with any girl in my life] Thanks for the reply. Bye" both show very clearly the link between three or four very seemingly unrelated concepts or words a)Sexual inadequacy(SXI) or erectile dysfunction b)Chronic Prostatitis(CPR) and c)Staphylococcus aureus d)Sex, no sex and STD's In a nutshell, understand that staph --or any other germ; some std, some not can invade a male's system, infect his prostate give him a CPR and then cause SXI secondary to the CPR. In my experience, CPR --hidden, unsuspected, undiagnosed(by SFA--seminal fluid analysis with m,c,s-- is the cause of up to 85% --if not even more of SXI.Too may feel that all these has got to have a link or the other with sex. True and false. CPR, like PID both can be caused by either STD germs or UTI germs or any other general germ that takes their fancy. If, like in staph, a general germ is causing problem in the sexual areas, it does not mean that it is sexually transmitted-- only that it is doing havoc in that area.This is important for cases like the 19 year old virgin boy who has CPR or the 18 year old virgin girl who has PID. It does not imply that they were not chaste-- every one must understand this. And the only way to settle that is extensive interview, appropriate examination and laboratory tests that tell us what type of germ we are dealing with; okay? No generalizations; no jumping to any conclusions. Send to staphdoctor@yahoo.com ; or betterloverz@yahoo.com to access very useful information on how to stop these menaces. Not to publish? But that's how all --including you-- have benefited and are still benefiting. We publish--but change your ID and location. And that is good enough for all. Cheers