Love Gone Beyond Limits?

 Love Gone Beyond Limits?

Doctor,

 I have being reading your column in the Daily  Sun paper for long now, I never know I  will be writing to you today. I have a girl friend whom I love so very much we have being dating for the past 2 years she is 20 years old and in year 2 in college.. We love our selves so much that she asked me to have sex with her. I didn't want to do that at first because  she is a virgin and I was afraid not to have sex but for the problems of premature sex. But she told me that if I don't do it she will leave me and ask someone else to do it. I tried to make her understand reasons why we can't do it, this argument went on for 2 to 3 mouths, I know she love me very much. So I decided we will have sex. After that we had sex  on several occasions and  as a result; she is now pregnant. What should I do doctor. Please help me.

Harried Henry, Suleja

Dear Henry,

Do nothing. You are to be congratulated. You found a woman who loves you. A woman you also love. You decided to be adults and lo and behold you now have a baby to thank God for and bring up. If you know how many couples are looking for a baby, how to get love, how to settle down... but in your case it seems God overlooked your mistake and granted you a wonderful gift. Please there is no guarantee of love beyond this one and no guarantee of being able to get a baby. Your school work? Talk to yourselves and determine this will not stop you and you both should sail through. However, for you and others out there who don't know the rudiments, if you go to www.mediamedix.blogspot.com, you will learn more about how to control fertility-- get pregnant when you want and avoid pregnancy when you are not ready. You can also send me an e mail for "Fertility Awareness and Control"

I Am Always Nervous; Help!!!

 

I Am Always Nervous; Help!!!

Please Sir,

I am in a desperate need of a solution to this problem. I am a secondary school leaver. Right from my secondary school days I have been experiencing this problem. The problem is this, whenever I talk to a person, address a congregation or had an encounter with somebody, I am always nervous and after that I can not write as a result of the nervousness. Last year I visited a doctor and he told me that it is palpitation that it will stop soon but I have been waiting patiently for it to stop but to no avail. I am not comfortable with this, so I need a way out of this mess. Doctor, I hope I'm not going mad or something? Please reply via, my e-mail because as a secondary school leaver I may not be opportune to read it.
Sulaiman Afikuyomi, Ilorin

Dear Sulaiman,
Such nerves as you complain of usually have a discernible origin which a skilled doctor/psychologist/psychotherapist//psychiatrist can help you ferret out. These roots/origins are usually some conflict or the other at the base of your mind or emotions. Are there any hidden worries or anxieties or guilt or tension? These are the kinds of questions he will be looking for answers to.
Then he can tackle it. The condition is referred to as an anxiety neurosis, almost bordering on a phobia. What to do? Go seek out a professional who understands the mind -- like the ones above. Where to find them? Try General Hospitals, Specialist Hospitals; Teaching Hospitals. You can be treated. Help is available.
Madness? Oh no!!Truly, when we talk mind and psychiatry, most people think madness. Psychologists, psychotherapists and psychiatrists are not always treating madness; okay? There are much simpler, milder and harmless problems of the mind called Neuroses that we all can suffer from -- like Depression-- and they are really skilled in helping out with such concerns. Madness is another kettle of tea and I daresay your fears must be properly laid to rest by telling you what are the tell-tale features of madness-- which you do not have but which I list here just to help anyone with fears similar to yours to sort themselves out. When a person is going mad you begin to notice other symptoms apart from the ones you mentioned --things that affect the person's character especially -- character changes-- like)Coldness vs Normal Warmth; b)Concern Gone; c)May hear voices; d)Sleeplessness; e)Mannerisms and habits have changed--won't do some things they are normally very fond of;
f)Violence; g)May see things others do not see; h)Mood changes -- may be too joyful or too depressed for normal; i)Withdrawal; j)Verbal Attacks and negative words and curses on people; k)Wanting to undress in public; l)Hallucinations; m)Jumpiness and fear; n)Aggressiveness; o)Incorrigible-ness; p)Irritability-- 
q)Fights Easily; r)Paranoia -- or a feeling; frequently expressed-- that normally harmless things or people want to harm the patient; s)Quarrelsomeness-- Quarrels with everyone and everything -- fights her relatives; attacks driver; uses a knife or other harmful instruments to threaten; suddenly tears others clothing; t)Denial of reality; u)Anger, or Wrath -- as in great anger)Violence; and so on. 
All of that is bad news. The good news, of course, is that all these can be controlled and suppressed. At whatever level --whether just beginning or the one that has progressed a little bit. Just see the right professionals. Call the help-lines; send a text/ e mail       
 Cheers

Shot in My Dream; Dogs Pursuing Me; Help!!

Shot in My Dream; Dogs Pursuing Me; Help!!

Doctor,

I commend you on how you intelligently answer questions that border on health and otherwise. I will like mine to be given speedy attention.

 I have for a very long time being experiencing severe chest pains. People say it's because I smoke, but I do not smoke.

 Secondly, I heard that you are a pastor. I want to tell you that I was in a dream when a member of my church, The Redeemed Christian Church of God, shot us, three of us. And when he was questioned, he claimed it was accidental discharge! Then, we were taken to an hospital where the bullets would be extracted. The two of my colleague, one them my enemy in real life, were extracted of the bullets. Mine was shot on the head and when it was my turn, the police came and arrested the doctor!

I was crying in the dream when I woke up. So whatever I do, something reminds me that I am carrying  bullets on my head.

 Thirdly, sometimes, I see dogs pursuing me. Sometimes I see snakes staring at me! Before, I sat my JAMB I was in a dream where I failed. Even after the exams I dreamt that I failed! No I won't fail, In JESUS NAME, Amen! Doctor, please help me out.

Kukah-Agu,  Ubiam, Ebonyi  State


Dear Kukah,
You will agree that right now, you do not have any serious problems of health but only problems from the dream. Your one problem of health which is severe chest pains could be due to your psychological state of fear or near panic because of your frightful dreams and nightmares.
Only a one on one session with you can sort you out but I want to say to you that once you are ready and willing to follow instructions, you will see the very end of your troubles-- physical, psychological and spiritual.
So, call the help-line and set up a one on one session right away. Help is very available;okay? We'll be able to assess your chronic severe chest pain; why you are having these night mares and what to do to get the better of them
Expecting your call
Cheers 

Bleeding;Pain and Swollen Breasts After Abortion;Help!!

Bleeding;Pain and Swollen Breasts After Abortion;Help!!

Dear Doctor,

Sir, I will be very happy if you will be able to answer and publish my questions this next week. Please I need the answer urgently also that my mates out there can learn. I am a regular reader of your column every Thursday in Daily Sun till I had a problem which I will want you to help me with. I am a girl of 20 years old who just removed a baby; it is two weeks now and since then I have been bleeding but now it is not as heavy as the very first week and now it´s not even reddish like blood, it´s just brownish colour. In fact, I stopped putting pad and just wear my pant; when I am wet then I will go and change because, I see it as wasting of pad since the thing is not much. Two days after the removal of the baby, my breasts became swollen and sometimes it will be paining me and by that time water will be dropping from my breasts. This continued till Sunday last week when it stopped and my breast now became too soft and had come back to the normal size. My question now is, are there some foods and drugs that I need to take? If yes, please prescribe them for me. Secondly, since that time I noticed that from my navel down to my waist /abdomen; even my waist is paining me. I forgot to tell you at the beginning that I  gave birth to the 3 months and 14 days old baby, in fact, I was placed on drip. I took about seven  (7) bottles of drip. It was the eighth (8) one which was on the 4th day that the baby came out with the placenta. Please doctor, if there is some precautions I have to take now before it is too late; please tell me and advice me on other things to do.

Amanda, Awka, Anambra

Dear Amanda,

Haba!!!You do not want to be removing babies at 20 years of age; do you? Babies only come when we have sex. Sex is best inside marriage. So, the age old advice remains, abstain if you do not want a baby; okay? But if you cannot abstain then, to be sure you do not get into unwanted pregnancy trouble again, you need to learn Fertility Awareness and Control. You will learn more about this at my blog www.mediamedix.blogspot.com.  If you cannot go to the blog and you want the gist here it is -- as a lady the length of your menstrual cycle (number of days) if divided by 3 (eg 28 days divided by 3) = 9.3 days. To get pregnant, have sex in the middle one-third days; to avoid pregnancy, never have sex in the 9 days in the middle one third. That's a rough rule but I will send my free report titled, "Fertility Awareness and Control" to anyone who asks for it by e mail. Now for your other concerns-- Every new mother bleeds for some time after birth and it is normal that the stuff coming out will first be blood red and later be less copious and change colour to brown. We call the stuff lochia. In the same manner, it is normal for your breasts to drip fluid and pain you -- after all if you had not removed the baby you are supposed to be breastfeeding the baby. It is the breast milk which your breast produced in response to the baby's presence that caused your breast discomfort. The pain in your pelvis (from navel down to waist) is best evaluated by a competent doctor/gynecologist. It is possible you contacted Pelvic Inflammatory Disease ( PID) in a mild form. It would need expert treatment so that it does not  block your tubes and make you unable to get pregnant in future. 8 "drips" show that the baby you removed was unripe to come out and you really had to force it to come out. As to the age of the baby, it is usually preferred that a baby be removed at an earlier age (than the 15 weeks in your baby's case) when the process of removal is much easier.

In summary, please learn Fertility and Awareness Control (you can send me an e mail requesting for it or just go to the blog and read it) and practice it. It will save you from unwanted pregnancy

Cheers

Worm-Like Movement at Penile Tip; Help!!  

Dear Sir, 

Please I am writing in respect of an online mail written by Dr. Caleb Bibbi Oluranti advising a patient to contact your email, doctorbibbiz@gmail.com  in respect of cure for Staphylococcus aureus. It was from a blog on General Health issues, www.mediamedix.blogspot.com.  

For some years now, I have been feeling a worm like movement at the tip of my penis from time to time. Though I had consulted a lab technician who tested my urine and confirmed my fears of Staph. He prescribed some drugs and injection for me which I took, but up till this moment, I am still feeling the worm like structure moving at the tip of my penis.  Please Sir, based on Dr. Caleb Bibbi Oluranti’s directive to that patient who suffered same symptoms, kindly send free and fuller details and information on how to avail myself of a cure and get rid of this challenge so as to advance in life.  Thank you for your prompt response.  Yours sincerely,

James Danmbatta, Jos

Dear James,

The feeling or sensation of strange movement in the location you mentioned or in any other part of the body must be investigated to rule out filarial worms that move along the subcutaneous tissues because   there are several different species of parasitic worms that become a problem when ingested, but worms that burrow into your skin are a rarer breed. These include a few types of the tiny, thread-like filarial worm, which can infect the body cavities, lymph system, eyes, or the fat layer just under your skin's surface. The latter two types cause an infectious disease called subcutaneous filariasis. These worms include the Loa loa (African eye worm), Onchocerca volvulus (causes River Blindness) and the guinea worm. They are found mostly along bodies of water in tropical areas of Africa, South America and Southeast Asia. You can catch subcutaneous filariasis if you are bitten by a mosquito or fly infected with larvae. The filarial worm completes its entire life cycle in its human host. Once the larvae are injected by an infected bug, they grow into adult worms and reproduce, creating microfilariae. These juvenile worms' location just under the skin makes them ripe for being ingested by feeding mosquitoes and the cycle begins anew. People infected with filarial worms may have them for years, and adult worms can live for more than a decade.  Onchocerciasis is the second-leading infectious cause of blindness in the world. Mansonella streptocerca is another filarial worm that gives the same symptom. . Yes, the laboratory is the proper place to go for investigation of your skin (they’ll take what is called a skin snip from you BUT the proper procedure is to see a doctor who now sends you for lab-work which will be reported back to the doctor who will now prescribe medicines for you. It is not proper for you to take prescriptions of medicines and injections from Laboratory scientists or technicians. Usually, however, this feeling or symptom you describe is not due to these worms. Most of the time, complaints about  strange movements are neurotic complaints where there is nothing pathological to be seen moving or giving the feelings of movement; rather it is an effect of the mind over the body (mind over matter). In other words, the trouble is real; yes, but it is in the mind and not in the body. It is generally secondary to worries, anxieties, fears, conflicts and apprehensions in the mind which of course the organism enables the system to appreciate by transmuting it into feelings of physical symptoms like crawling; pepperiness; ant-like movements; feeling of heat in parts of the body all of which are unreal physically but very real when traced to the roots which is the mind or the psychological. All of that is part of the bad news. The good news is that we can get rid of the movements for you by a combination of orthodox medicines and complementary remedies. You can be well. It may cost you some; but what is the use of money when one cannot advance in life or even enjoy their life or money? Call the help-lines. You will get some psychological counselling and then some physical medication as well as medicines that work on the mind to remove the effect of the worries, conflicts and anxieties. Salvation is just a call a way. Go for it!!! 

Forgotten Factors in Failed Fertility

Forgotten Factors in Failed  Fertility
Question—(this is a composite question made up from posts from various visitors to the forum on Trying to CoceiveTTC at nairaland.com). The answer is a general answer from us. Enjoy the Q and A

There is no doubt that Endometriosis affects fertility. Endometrial cells can commonly be found on the fallopian tubes where they implant themselves and begin to grow. Excess estrogen in the body creates an enabling atmosphere for the endometrial cells to grow. They may scar and block the fallopian tubes, which then makes it difficult for you to get pregnant.
Estrogen promotes the growth of cells, therefore when in excess there is excessive growth of cells. This causes the cells to then proliferate leading to Endometriosis as we know it. In estrogen Endometriosis fertility the hormone progesterone is much less than the estrogen found in the body.
It is important to note that the actions of estrogen are controlled by progesterone. Therefore if the progesterone is low, the estrogen is out of control leading to estrogen Endometriosis fertility issues.
To counter this problem you can use supplementary natural progesterone which slows down and even stops the proliferation of these cells.
Estrogen Endometriosis fertility issues increase with age. Women suffering from Endometriosis who delay conception to their thirties find that they may not be able to conceive. According to studies done, the best treatment for helping infertility if you have Endometriosis is surgery. This is the only way you can improve the chances of conception
Another factor that must be considered when discussing estrogen Endometriosis fertility is how long you have been infertile. This is because your conception success rate is very much dependent on how long you have been trying for a baby before the Endometriosis was diagnosed.
If you have been trying to get pregnant unsuccessfully for 3 years or more, then the chances of getting pregnant naturally are significantly low regardless of what stage of Endometriosis you are in. Therefore, when it comes to estrogen Endometriosis fertility it is important to get an early diagnosis and have the Endometriosis aggressively treated from the get go.
Another factor to consider when discussing estrogen Endometriosis fertility is your partner's Fluid quality. If it is found to be sub-fertile, then the success rate of getting pregnant will be reduced by at least 50% compared to that of a couple where the partner's Fluid quality is normal.
One cannot overlook the fact that the woman's chances of conception reduce by 12% to 36% every month that goes by. However, if you are open to in-vitro fertilization methods they can still conceive.
When Endometriosis is in the early stages, a fertility drug known as clomiphene can be used to help you conceive. When treating estrogen Endometriosis fertility with surgery the best time to try for a baby should be immediately after surgery. This will increase your chances of conception…..
I am looking forward to helping you solve your delayed pregnancy.
Re: Trying To Conceive A Child
If you have spent months, or even years, trying to get pregnant, you are not alone. Although over 90% of women will be able to conceive a child within eighteen months after beginning trying to get pregnant, there are still many women who cannot. For that last 10%, trying to get pregnant becomes a hassle and a chore instead of the joyful hope that it once was. Each month seems to pass slowly, and every time your period starts again you feel like crying. If you have found yourself in this position after an extended period of trying to get pregnant, be kind to yourself. This is not your fault.

Chances are that you are already aware of the options available to you for assistance while trying to get pregnant. You know that you can try longer, attempt fertility treatments, etc. Most likely you have already chosen one of these paths. Maybe you are undergoing infertility treatments now, or maybe you have given yourself a “deadline” for beginning these treatments.
You know what you plan to do next, so why not focus on the day-to-day things? Time will pass and things will happen, but you won’t be any happier if you live month-to-month, waiting for only one special event to happen so that you can enjoy life.
Have you been trying to get pregnant so long that your life has lost its luster? Make the decision now to take steps in the other direction.
 Re: Trying To Conceive A Child? TTC
It's with full attention that I read this post. Suffice it to say that I am passing through the same problem with my spouse; we've been married for 5 years now without an issue, though we've had a couple of miscarriages. But we are not losing hope or losing our joy, neither are we giving up.
A friend of ours wanted to introduce us to her doctor for treatment, but she suddenly grew cold feet. Just yesterday we were discussing how to get a good doctor.
By the way, my spouse and I are in our early 40's
Re: Trying To Conceive A Child? TTC
First thank you oh powers that be for unblocking my handle Description: lipsrsealed
My peace how far, have you been tempted to test yet?
V,That condition seems like a very difficult one, are you just seeing one doctor or you have gone a specialist in this Field? I pray too that it works for you. There is nothing too hard for God.
E, i tried replying last week 3 times but i was blocked so could not say nothing. I know you said you looked on line but remember many illnesses or diseases have similar symptoms so it might be difficult to pinpoint exactly what it is.
But since you have a clue and you have just tested for it that is a huge start and i pray to God, that it is the end of this journey. No i am not a Nigerian woman who sits and just hopes and prays i have my specialist who is working with me , i am taking it one day at a time i hope the results brings you the answers you need.
A,I am not a doctor but i have going through this same thing so i can tell you what i think, if you don't mind. Have you and your wife ever tested the miscarriage tissues to see if there is any chromosomal imbalance? I know they do that in Nigeria it will be serious cash it is done just to make sure you both match to have babies.
I know it is difficult but you cannot let her have cold feet talk to her go with her so both of you can get tested and cover all the basis staying home and hoping is not really helping. For a Nigerian man i am happy that you have not taken a second wife Description: grin and that you are still holding on to each other it takes a lot of guts from a man to stay with a woman in this situation especially in Nigeria when he knows he can just have a back yard girlfriend. It depends on what state you live in my friend has told me of 2 clinics one in Lagos and PHC (that is if you are in Nigeria).
Age also plays a factor in this situation but the sooner you start looking into it the better for a woman at age 30 the quality of your eggs start to decline so please try and find a good doctor asap.
Re: Trying To Conceive A Child? TTC
My case may be a bit different but believe me we are in the same situation and pain. I have 3 kids a boy and 2 girls. I however after much calculation took in for the 4th baby who died few hrs after birth since then i have actually done all i think i shd do to take in again after 2 yrs but it seems i am not trying. I sometimes feel very bad and sad but i stil live it to God to dry my tears. My kids are doing well but i still need 1 more
Answer—You need not weep about the woes above anymore. Learn how to get pregnant now and deliver your baby without stress at our Fertility Fair this month as we review our true stories like the man with Azoospermia—no sperm cells at all; yet wife gets pregnant in 1 month; so husband wants to attack doctor (us) in mistaken belief that we slept with his wife but baby at birth is his carbon-copy! You will learn how to get this kind of positive embarrassment. Again, PCOS lady gets pregnant exactly one month after coming to us and husband who had severe oligospermia of only 2 million asks her, ‘Abi you slept with another man?’ She answered, “Shebi you know I don’t have eggs”. Lastly, baby disappears on ultrasound --evidence of Pregnancy disappears yet couple have ultrasound evidence that pregnancy was present a month earlier. Woman does not feel pregnant again. After our intervention, same ultrasound centre locates pregnancy and lady delivers bouncing baby boy at term. “Forgotten Factors of Failed Fertility –How to Fight and Find Fulfilment” is the topic. It is time for you to put an end to your long time infertility nightmare.  You can and will as you take action. Send an e mail or text us for details of the Fair. Further information at www.mediamedix.blogspot.com
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A Pneumonia or a Heart Attack?

A Pneumonia or a Heart Attack?

Dear Dr, 

I believe you can help clear up my confusion. I have had this pain I believe is pneumonia  on the left side of my chest right up to my neck on the left, for about  a decade now. I saw a medical doctor who told me it is a heart attack I am suffering and not pneumonia. The doctor asked me if I had any emotional issues and how does the pain react to such issues. I answered that there is a situation that pains me whenever I think of how my sister used me and dumped me; and  that the pain gets worse whenever I contemplate the problem. He sort of used this to confirm his suspicions and he wants to start treating me for what he called IHD or Ishaemic Heart Disease which says is also a heart attack. Doctor, what is your opinion? Is it a heart problem or pneumonia which I hear is of the lungs? Please help me

Okey Ginika, Abakaliki

Dear Okey,

The truth is that pain in the chest or abdomen can be traceable to both heat and lung diseases.But the characteristics of each organ disease, either heart or lungs differs.Lung disease like pneumonia will generally affect both parts of the chest; although it may affect only one. On the other hand, diseases of the heart traditionally AFFECT ONLY ONE SIDE OF THE CHEST WHICH IS THE LEFT. Again when you have pneumonia, it is expected that you will have a fever; the fever, generally will be a high one. Heart diseases generally do not come with fever  and when and if they do, the fever may not be so high. Cough will generally accompany pneumonia while you generally do not get a cough with heart problems and when they come may not be as prominent a symptom as with pneumonia. However, in this your case, the fact that your pain is on the left side and is linked to emotional issues will make most doctors think of the heart, rather than the lungs. I wager you have a condition where there is not enough blood arriving in your heart; causing ischemia -- not enough blood supplied. Ischemic Heart Disease is actually another name for heart attack like the doctor you saw said to you. I would agree with the doctor and start my treatment as fast as I can, if i were you

Cheers