Help; I'm Useless to My Wife!

Help; I'm Useless to My Wife!

Dear Doc,

I am the one that called you yesterday, I am a 33yr old man from Enugu State. I have a serious problem which is trying to ruin my life. I engaged in a relationship which resulted in disease and right now I am dying under some terrible pain. When I urinate I always pass some milky fluid. I have a swollen scrotum, I was diagnosed by a doctor who said that I  had a hernia. I went through surgical operation but to no avail. I have taken my problem to so many hospitals without any better result.

These are the symptoms: milky fluid coming out of my penis when I urinate, swollen scrotum (testis), weak sexual emotion, pain in the swollen scrotum (the right one). I suffer the pain most when I have a strong erection and sometimes migraine headache with it. My lady has loved and followed me and our relationship has resulted into marriage; and on the bed, presently I am now faced with these sexual problems--

1. I am unable to go more than one round , and release my load in a second.

2. After releasing I could not go again until the next day.

3.The most worrisome part  is that I cannot have or maintain a good and strong erection, my manhood always as soft as foam.

4. My early morning erection is no longer there.

5.During ejaculation my semen used to shoot but now it oozes out.

Please I am always ashamed of myself whenever she calls for sex. I am thinking of losing my life than live and seeing myself in this unbearable condition. My wife has tried to bear with me but right now, she is threatening to leave me if there is no solution to it. I also pity her for what she has being undergoing for so long.

I was subjected to a lab. test and below are the result. *Motility rate 10% Actively motile 30%. *Sperm count 5x1000000 cells. *Viscosity.. slightly viscous. *Pus cells... 1-3hpf ph 7.5. *Morphology..25% abnormal cells. The test also showed that I have a STAPH AUREUS infection. Please I still count on you for help. Sir, I want you introduce me to professional doctor in this area or the kind of drug that will eliminate the pain and restore back my potency. I will gratefully appreciate it if you can reply this mail via my: cgckvlvl (Lagos)email. Do not publish. Keep it secret..

Thanks for your urgent reply.

Enugu Eugene

 

Dear Eugene,

You have a Chronic Prostatitis --any male that discharges in the absence of sex has it--and your case shows how pathetic ignorance (of even medical practitioners) can be. Sexual activity tend to be vigorous, wild and unrestrained among young men. They catch a bug and infect their prostate -- an internal organ in the male that can be called a man's womb. Prostatitis sets in and can be hard to get rid of.

Final and lasting solution is available to you if you follow instructions for, though we are medical practitioners too we have seen where, why and how too many of our colleagues fail to successfully handle this very serious challenge to male health and well--being. Of course, there are complications already -- and that includes the swollen testicles -- it is a case of chronic epididymitis secondary to your prostatitis and the painful thing is that this ailment will be eating up your sperm count all this time -- you can see you haveonly 5 million when the normal is over 20 million sperm cells per ml. This is how low or zero sperm count develops, many times without the kind of warning bell your pain has served you. In other words, infection is eating away at a man's ability to be a real man or father a child and yet, since he has NO PAIN at all, he knows nothingbaoutit. That is Chronic Prostatitis for you. Again, your case shows very clearly the link between three very seemingly unrelated concepts or phrases

a)Sexual inadequacy(SXI) or erectile dysfunction

b)Chronic Prostatitis(CPR) and

c)Staphylococcus aureus

In a nutshell, understand that Staph --or any other germ (especially E.Coli, Kelbsiella, Proteus; Streptococcus etc --  some of them STD's and, some not so) can invade a male's system, infect his prostate; give him a CPR and then cause SXI secondary to the CPR. In my experience, CPR --hidden, unsuspected, undiagnosed (by SFA--seminal fluid analysis with m,c,s-- is the cause of up to 85% --if not even more of SXI). SXI is curable; CPR too (but by experienced doctors). It is most important that you save your marriage by attending properly to this matter if, like she has threatened, madam will not pack away or follow the driver!!  If you send to staphdoctor@yahoo.com, betterloverz@yahoo.com you will access very useful information on how to stop these menaces. Also, visit our blog/website at www.mediamedix.blogspot.com. Not to publish? But that's how all-- including you-- have benefited and are still benefiting. We publish-- but simply change your ID -- name and location. Call the help lines

Cheers

Dr.Caleb Bibbi Oluranti.Help-lines 08033466574; 08028240983; 08057441699; 08093142261

Witchcraft Attacks on Our Marriage Bed; Help!!!

My Complaint About African Doctors

Dear Dr Bibbi,
Your write-up on the subject of Organ in Bondage/Sexual Inadequacy in the Daily Sun recently, refers. It made an interesting reading. I am worried that some Africans Medical Doctors do not take the spiritual aspect of ill health into consideration while managing cases. As a result when you make your complains they tell you that it is psychological especially when sexual problems are concerned. It is sad indeed. I have a similar problem to that of the writer of  that piece. I got married in Dec. 2013 and since then it has been one form of spiritual attack and the other. Oppressed by witches while sleeping, finger prints on my body, multiple sex dreams with unknown partners, had two fatal motor accidents, and now I find it difficult making love to my wife because my organ will not rise or become erect!!! Since we got married we have believed God for the fruit of the womb but surprisingly I find it most difficult to make love to her during her ovulation.
Once I or my wife have this sex dream it becomes  difficult for me to get an erection. The size of my organ becomes  so weak and very smallish. Just as written by the complainant in his letter I have to beg and rub my organ before I can manage a weak erection sometimes. All these are the opposite of my former self before I got married. 
 My type of job take me away from home for a week and gets me off duty for a week. If I am alone in my station I WAKE UP almost every night to see my organ strongly erected usually about 1.30am -3.20am.
I am a born again Christian so all we have being  doing is to get into stubborn and aggressive prayers. But the more we pray the more the problem gets tougher. The joy that greeted our marriage is almost disappearing.We  are weeping, bruised and heartbroken.
 We consulted a Medical Dr (Gynaecologist) who put me on PROVIRON, to solve the problem and, yes, the first three days of the ingestion of the drugs it worked, but  thereafter it was as if the drug was working the opposite of what it was supposed to do. (I have taken the drug for about 3months now.) How can orthodox medicine explain that?  I must tell you that some persons ( my former girlfriend who is Genotype AS  same with me, as well as the guy my wife had relationship before I met her) put obstacles on our ways to stop our wedding but God saw us through. They even threatened that if I married  my wife that our marriage will not last.  Certainly out of ignorance I did not take their threats serious, but now I know better. 
 Doctor, it has been a difficult time for me and my wife. Our problem is no doubt purely spiritual and we have taken it like that. We have taken our case to the supreme court of God Almighty. We believe God is able  to deliver us and give us victory in Jesus Name.  On this basis, it is painful when our fellow Africans
 Doctors do not accept that some ill health are spiritual; rather they will say that such sexual problem is the state of the mind. Those finger prints on the body on waking up from sleep, those strong erections in the midnight when alone, etc are they also psychological?

Please I need your prayers and that of everyone of you that reads this piece. PLEASE, I will very much appreciate your reply.  DO NOT PUBLISH MY NAMES; PLEASE.High regards,

Vincent Kaiagama,

Yenagoa, Bayelsa

Dear Vincent,

Let me help you by making some six pertinent points. 1)Doctors, African or no;t are doctors, not priests, pastors, clerics or shamans. They do not have any training or exposure in school to the things you are talking about, so, they cannot and do not handle such matters. 2)Doctors take training in physical sciences and psychological sciences; full stop. Nobody teaches them about he spiritual and it is not the fault of anyone. 3)The scientific basis or way of thinking that is the root of their training does not recognize anything THAT CANNOT BE SEEN or PROVEN PHYSICALLY. 4)You will agree that the kind of understanding you say is lacking is more available in church or seminary, Bible, Koranic or spiritual school. 5)In point of fact, because the average African understands these things without any doubt, African doctors tend to be more understanding than their Western counterparts in these cases. 6)For you to get not only a sympathetic hearing, but help to get rid of these your troubles, you need the rare professional who combines an understanding and proficiency in these two worlds that seem anti-thetical to each other-- the physical and the spiritual. My book, 'Destroying the Strongholds of Witchcraft" will help you and anyone with challenges such as you have mentioned. But I must commend your dogged and fighting spirit and assure you that with this affirmation of your stance and a willingness to follow instruction, you will get there, as we have helped many before you. Call the help-line

Clarify Diabetes

Clarify Diabetes                                                                                                                                                                         

Dear Doctor,

I happened to come across your column at a friend's place with whom I am staying presently and I want to say I like the way you advice and re-assure those who write you with their problems.This has encouraged me to write to you. I would like to know if it is possible for someone like me whose parents are not diabetic to have diabetes .Is it possible for a young boy like me who is twenty-one years to have diabetes just like that? What are the symptoms of diabetes? Does it make the male organ small and weak? Why I am asking this is because sometime ago I noticed that after I urinate, some whitish liquid comes out and it draws like okro though it's not quite as thick. It is clear and whitish and doesn't smell badly or cause pain . I thought I had STD at first but I was surprised because I have never slept with any woman before and I don’t masturbate. Last month I summoned courage and went to the hospital and to my greatest surprise I was told that it was semen escaping from my reproductive organs.Now one of my friends has told me that this is a sign of diabetes. Is it true? I am afraid because I know I take a lot of sweet things. Another one of my friends told me that this condition is caused by smallness of my organ. He further advised me to start having sex otherwise it would start growing smaller. Dear doctor, how do I stop this problem? It has been embarrassing me and it sometimes stains my trousers . Do I go for a diabetes test? Likewise is it really true that lack of sex on reaching maturity causes the male organ to remain small? How do I enlarge my organ? Is it through starting to have sex frequently?I thought of going to one of these places advertised frequently but I was held back because I know that some of them are quacks and I don’t know if such enlargement would leave me impotent .

Sir , I would be glad to receive your advice .

Yours sincerely

Waleed Bibilari, Oyo

Dear Waleed,

Diabetes does not of necessity pass from parents to children-- its inheritance pattern is not so direct--that is even when parents have the disease. Yes diabetes runs in families but there are environmental determinants that can trigger its manifestation even when the genetic disposition is not there. So diabetes can just arise out of "nowhere"--yes. Diabetes does not the cause any of the things you have(although it can cause low libido--disinterest in sex as well as erectile dysfunction or impotence). You say you've not had sex before but what about necking and other such things including genital or oral contact? They are significant in these cases, you know. Do your test but let a doctor order it and it should prove that you don’t have diabetes. Diabetes is not always inherited. It can arise from nowhere. It's major symptoms are frequency of urination, overmuch thirst, tingling sensations in the feet and hands, frequent infections like boils, furuncles and carbuncles, slow healing ulcers, or cuts or wounds, blurred vision, always tired or just no symptom at all.For those with no symptom like you but who want to find out if they could have or be prone to the disease the laboratory may find they have what we call an impaired glucose tolerance when and if they do the test of their glucose tolerance. This your okro like discharge is a sign; not of diabetes but of chronic prostatitis –a disease that is usually a complication; not of an STD(it can be) but of UTI (urinary tract infection) which any one can have whether they sex or not. The genitals, you see, perform three functions: recreation, urination and procreation (reproduction). Now, chronic prostatitis is a very insidious disease and because the prostate is an organ through which all these three functions of the genitals pass, it could cause problems in all the three-- that is the cause of your problem and not diabetes. Anyone who, as a male, discharges any stuff without sexual arousal has chronic prostatitis-full stop. Most young men your age feel that they must have a horse size organ to be men. Not so. It is not quantity in this matter but quality that women consciously or unconsciously look for. If you have a king size organ and lack technique your sex would not be able to satisfy a woman-- never forget that.Also never forget that it is indiscriminate sex that causes problems(HIV,STD,AIDS ), not diabetes. Again, remember that diabetes does not cause these problems that you ask about. Your friend will push you into indiscriminate sex and that's where the trouble will come from; Okay? So beware.Small organs are not the cause of discharge, diabetes or anything; Okay? Don't buy that notion.It is un-educated; illiterate. Full stop.Diabetes is a disease caused by the body's inability to handle sugar /carbohydrates properly because insulin is deficient or not working. It does not mean that sweet things cause diabetes--else ask the people of Western cultures who would have been suffering an epidemic of diabetes on account of their liking for sweets at almost every meal--dessert, iced cream, jelly, syrup etc. A correct, balanced and nutritious diet as well as exercise and weight control are the things that help prevent diabetes.

Cheers

Help! I'm Afraid of Everybody!!!

Help! I'm Afraid of Everybody!!!

Dear Dr,

I'm a 24yr old guy who is indulged in self-discovery and who is looking to self-actualization and self-fulfillment. How glad I am this day, sharing with you a problem that has -for some years now- been weighing me down. a problem that instills in me the feeling of faltering while partaking in an activity, of not doing what I ought to do, and the unwarranted feeling of scrutiny and social insecurity whenever I'm in a public place. it is a secret enigma that I've been living with -hiding it within the depths of my mind- for far too long. Pouring out my gravely over burdened heart to one whom I feel would understand and bear with me -and possibly help alleviate or eradicate- the ceaseless pains, sorrows and worries which I feel deep inside, I believe, is one great step I'd be taking toward recovery from my burdens. I've always taken it to be a personal affair; if it wasn't a problem I see as being so humiliating, I'd have referred to it as "my dear." This is the very first time I'd discussing -with anybody, not even my parents or siblings - the awful experiences in my social life. Quite strange and incredible, isn't it? Well, you'd better believe my story because I'm telling you the truth and nothing short of it. But..."

 

Raheem Ringim, Kano

 

Dear Raheem,

(I decided to cut short your very long but interesting story but anyone can access it at www.mediamedix.blogspot.com. Social anxiety disorder (or social phobia) is an irrational, disabling fear of humiliation in everyday social situations.

People with social phobia fear that their behavior will lead to negative judgment by others, even though they recognize this fear is illogical. People who suffer this condition sometimes wish themselves as better dead but this need not be as there are ways to tackle the challenge with interview, counseling, remedies, drugs and prayer -- all together!! The last patient I had could not believe how fast he got well but the key was to find out the ROOT of the disease which is why a thorough interview is basic. Anyway, like this guy , you will actually get a CURE which is more than you can expect outside our techniques. Just reach out for help. It's available.

Dr.Caleb Bibbi Oluranti - 08033466574; 08028240983; 08057441699; 0809

Too Many Problems @16

Too Many Problems @16

Sir,

I do admire the way you help solve people's problems and I pray as you continue helping them, God will also help you in return. I am a girl of sixteen and I have so many problems. I have written to you once without being replied. Also, I have mailed several organizations like Ayodele and some others without being replied. Firstly, I am too fat. I weigh quite up to 75kg if not more. Help me to be slim since too much fat can cause a lot of psychological and physical problems. This fat is accompanied with a big stomach and big ass. Secondly, I sweat too much which leads to body odour especially under the armpit. It is very embarrassing when I am in the midst of my friends. Thirdly, anytime I want to start my menses I undergo pains for the first and second days sometimes till the third day. How can this be stopped? Should I lose my virginity to make it stop or is there another way out? Also, occasionally I undergo heavy breathing. A kind of sore throat comes before it. I end up taking ventolin and chymoral before it can stop. Some doctors diagnosed it as asthma but I strongly disagree with them. So please help me to put a stop to it. Fourthly, when I was small, my house boy used to do some funny things to me as in sexually. I don’t know maybe anything has been damaged. What can I do to prevent any calamity? Even now, I am not sure if my virginity is still intact. Could I have contacted any STD? My private part also itches me at times. What is responsible for this and can it be stopped?

Fifthly, as young as I am, my breasts sag. I am afraid if my future husband should see this, he will think i have given birth or something. What can I do? Sixthly, I have this speech impediment that when I want to talk I end up stammering and making grammatical blunders. Is it because my upper and lower jaw fail to align? What is responsible for this nonalignment because it is disfiguring my face? How can I make it align and also have white teeth? Seventhly, there is this thing that I used to do when I was small. It’s like masturbating. I have tried to do away with it to no avail. How can I stop it and also try to stop sucking my fore and middle fingers? Eighthly, I am emotionally fragile. I fall easily for guys. How can I stop this? There is this guy in my church that I see frequently, anytime I see him, my heart starts beating. I know it is wrong to engage in any relationship, so what do I do?

Doc, my problems are so numerous that I don’t know where to stop. I have tried committing suicide because of these but I know when there is life there is hope. You are my last hope. PLEASE, don’t publish this mail as my e-mail address can be recognized by my parents and friends. You can reply through my e-mail address which is bjk.wdq'eenh'bwhbv@dgghgat   

   

Joycelyn Debolu, Ogbomosho

Dear Joycelyn,

We do not publish people’s e mails or any details to identify them; we change their names and locations. Fat and excessive sweating are linked; once you lose weight, the sweating should go away. Another good thing you can do is see a dermatologist. You’ll find one in the Teaching Hospital; the General Hospitals if large sometimes have one and any Specialist Hospital should parade one. One other thing about sweating--it's a common complaint of many teenagers. It’s nothing to write home about. You'll soon outgrow it. The next problem you mention is important-- LOSING YOUR VIRGINITY IS NOT THE SOLUTION TO PAINFUL MENSES.  What's the solution? It is widening of the cervix. The widening of the cervix, not the vagina; I repeat the cervix is different from the vagina. The cervix is at the upper dead-end of the vagina and is the opening, mouth and neck of the womb. Like an inverted bottle, the womb lies at the upper end of the vagina, with its mouth or neck or opening, the cervix, jutting out into the vagina. This cervix, must of necessity widen, during labour, to allow the head of the baby to pass. When this has happened, the cervix has been widened naturally and complaints of pain during menses that have plagued the sufferer since the beginning of her menstrual life. There are ways the doctor can use instrumentation to widen the cervix or cervical opening and it is not sex. Sex only involves the vagina and does not get to the cervix; so IT IS NOT THE LOSING OF YOUR VIRGINITY THAT SOLVES THE PROBLEM; it is the widening of the cervix. There are two types of pain with menses or what we call dysmenorrhea. Primary dysmenorrhea where the pains began from the first day of menses is what you have and what we have sorted out here. Secondary dysmenorrhea, in which the pains began later, not from the very beginning of the menstrual life; that is another kettle of fish; handled in a different way. Okay? The problem of heavy breathing remedied only by chymoral and ventolin is strange. I'll need to see you face to face, examine you, your breathing, your mind and thinking etc, to hazard an opinion on that. The same goes for determining if you have contacted any STD or whether you remain a virgin or not. House-helps tampering sexually with babies in their care is more common than is realized and is the cause of the erroneous belief that homosexuality (for example) is something people were born with. If the house-help were gay or lesbian, and you were very young so you cannot remember the assault, by now you could be gay too and be claiming you were born that way. Vaginal itching can be resolved if you educate yourself about it. You'll find a very good resource in my ‘When Itching Refuses to Stop’ which you can read in my blog, www.mediamedix.blogspot.com . Masturbation, though common among youths can become habit-forming. Together with your other bad habits of finger –sucking a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist will help you. If they fail to help, you can call us and we'll help yous top masturbation as we've done for others. Your stammering and nervousness, again, is not strange and has nothing to do with your jaws as a good dentist will tell you. Whitening of teeth is very available and is routine dental practice now. So go for it. Breast enhancement surgery is available but costs an eye. One of these days you may be able to afford it.

Joycelyn, you may feel as if I am being dismissive of your concerns but the truth is, you do not have any real problems at all; all your fears are normal at the age you are now—almost all teenagers have these body image problems where they feel one part or other of their body or physique or make-up is inadequate; too many teenage gals have serious crushes on various males their age or older. These things are normal. You have done well to speak out; others internalize their woes and then go ahead to commit suicide. Committing suicide is out of the question; it is condemning God the Creator and if successful, ushers the person into unimaginable suffering that will never end. Don’t try it. Get help. Find a good elder person you can say all these to; maybe a teacher, maybe a parent, maybe a counselor, maybe a pastor. They will help you and they will ensure that you see any other person, (maybe a professional) who should help. Call the helplines. We help. Don’t commit suicide. Reach out for help. 

We've Got No Child Yet!!!

We’ve Got No Child Yet!

Good day sir,

My name is Ichabod and I'm 42 years. I’m writing cos I came across your column in an old Daily Sun newspaper. I went to a hospital to do a semen analysis and it returned: Volume-3.5mls, motility-active 35%, sluggish 25% Dead 40% Count: 21.1 million cells, consistency- slightly viscous. And at the end they wrote No growth. Honestly I did not understand a thing in the test, I didn't see the doctor to interpret it for me cos they said I should pay another money for the doctor to interpret and before I went for the test, my wife of three years do always complain that I don't ejaculate inside her which I know I do and always tell her so but she always insist that she doesn't feel anything inside when I said I had come. This made me to go for the test and what I want to know now is if my condition is treatable and how. We have no child yet. Thanks.

Ichabod.

 

 Dear Ichabod,
You must start by telling your wife that you ejaculate, you ejaculate inside her and you are capable of impregnating her. How do I know? The tests you did prove these from the result. First, you cannot produce semen as a male unless you ejaculate. If then your wife knows and appreciates that you both have sex and make love and during this your organ is inside of her and comes out limp even though it went in erect, you are ejaculating and doing it inside her. Because, you could never produce semen as a man unless you get an erection and you discharge semen at ejaculation. If it happened when you wanted to collect semen for the test, it is happening the same way when you are inside her. Why then is she not feeling it? Anxiety associated with her long-time delay in getting pregnant; that's all.  Her anxiety has depressed her ability to feel you. Nothing else. It is a normal thing to find anxiety causing all kinds of distortions of perception; so please do not worry. As it is important also for madam to totally lose her anxiety so as to help her get pregnant, please do all you can to share this mail with her to calm her fears. You are normal in every way. Let me prove it. You see, the normal volume of semen ejaculated by males is 2 to 5 mls; you have 3.5, so you passed. When the total sperm count in the ejaculate is higher than 20million per ml, the man CAN impregnate a woman. The normal is 20 to 300 million. Some authorities quote 60 to 300 million. I once had a man from Maiduguri come to see me in Lagos whose sperm count was 750million per ml!!! The point is your own 20.1 million is higher than 20 million. So, again, you passed. Again, when the question is the quality and not the quantity of sperm cells, you still get  a pass mark -- it is normal once over 40% of the sperm cells are alive (alive means both the vigorous and  highly motile plus the sluggish). In your case, 35% (actively motile) plus 25 %( sluggish) is 60%. You need just 40% at the least to be normal. Finally, the test says No Growth meaning the laboratory tried to find bacterial germs in your semen sample but failed to do so after usually at least 48-72 hours of trying. Now, these your figures, though okay like I said, can be bettered or boosted with treatment and this will greatly increase your likelihood of getting your wife pregnant. We are willing to help you with such treatment if you ask. So just call the helplines and we'll be very glad to help you.

Cheers

Tablet For Fertility?

Tablet For Fertility?

I was introduce on Parlodel tablet by a pharmacist. I complain to him that I have been looking for a child. He said that the tablet is good. Please Dr. Bibbi please advise me on what to do. for how long can the tablet be taken. I started using from January, 4th, 2006 the day I saw my menses.

I will appreciate if you will reply me.

Thank you.

Mrs. Abby Ekaette, Calabar

Dear Mrs Ekaette,

Parlodel is a brand of bromocriptine useful when infertility is caused by a brand of hormonal imbalance in which prolactin which is high-- that is all!! Is yours high? There are so many reasons why a woman may be subfertile -- not only when prolactin is high. Let me list about a dozen -- a) fibroids, b)ovarian cyst, c)endometriosis, blocked tubes, d)no ovulation, e)PID or pelvic inflammatory disease, f)low progesterone levels... Which reason is yours? I thought the person to see was a gynecologist/good fertility doctor-- how come you landed with a pharmacist? Of course if the problem is not high prolactin levels, you will only be guilty of drug abuse using "Parlodel". Please do the right thing so you can get the right result. Beware

Cheers

Dr.Caleb Bibbi Oluranti